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Pat
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Date Posted: 10/ 7/09 3:02pm
Hi, Kayleigh,
I am so sorry that you experienced this rape! This is horrible!
You should go to the police with this. The DNA from your baby will prove that this man is the father, and will provide strong evidence that he raped you.
Your baby shouldn't be punished for what this man did to you. You know that abortion is wrong. If you carry your baby, you will simply have been a victim of rape. If you have an abortion, you will also be an aggressor, against your own child. Abortion is still wrong, whether the baby came from a rape or not. This is also your child, and he or she is depending on you for your protection.
Don't be ashamed. It wasn't your fault. You are not to blame. It is common for women who are raped to think that they are at fault. That's part of the violence done to them, in this case to their self respect.
I read a story once, by Theodore Sturgeon, called Silken Swift. In the story, a woman was raped. The townspeople wanted to test her virginity, so they found a unicorn. Unicorns normally won't let women who are not virgins touch them. But this unicorn knew the story, so he went up to her and let her touch him. She was not to blame for the rape. In her heart, she was still a virgin. Take this story to heart. It is a story that applies to you.
The unicorn is a symbol for Jesus, and He loves you.
Have courage. People may question you. But do you owe anyone else any explanation for your courage? I don't think so. You can tell people if you want. Certainly the shame of the man who did this should be spread far and wide. If you don't want to explain the circumstances, don't. Just tell people you prefer not to discuss it, that it has taken courage for you to face the world, but your baby isn't to blame for your situation, and you won't harm your baby.
Please protect your baby.
You can raise your baby or choose adoption. I know two women who raised their babies, and one was even gang raped, and both of them are doing splendidly. In fact, the one has eight children and says the one she is closest to is the son who resulted from rape. I know another woman who had an abortion instead (date rape), and she has been in and out of mental hospitals ever since.
One more thing. Lori recommended you find a crisis pregnancy organization near you. This is especially important if the "father" wants to assert any rights to your baby. This is a problem in some jurisdictions, and perhaps your best protection is to go to the police now. They can help you with these issues.
We will be here for you any time you need to talk, and we would love it if you will keep us updated.
Hugs,
Pat
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