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Subject: Re: what would u do

Author:
Sharon

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Date Posted: 12/ 9/09 2:34pm
In reply to: yasmin 's message, "what would u do" on 12/ 3/09 4:12pm

Yasmin,

Sometimes the things we see as obstacles are actually blessings in disguise. Having children won't prevent you from completing your education. It will make it more challenging, but you sound like you've met challenges before. And, you seem like a very devoted mother.

I know families can be very judgemental at times. But, once they meet this new little person, much of that will melt away.

Also, I think that if you were to abort this child, the fact that he or she was due on your birthday would likely haunt you. You're the only one able to protect your little one right now. He or she is depending upon you.

Sharon

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[> Subject: Re: what would u do

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 12/ 9/09 7:00pm

Hi Yasmin,

Firstly, welcome! I'm glad you found your way here; it's a great place with wonderful women to decompress.

It's understandable that you would feel fretful; hang in there - there is hope!

How far along are you? Do you have support from the biological father or other friends? I realize it's hard to let go of what our parents think (been there!) but in a matter of life and death for another human being, their opinion of you or your new baby should not be a deciding factor.

I think you gave a lot of indicators in your post what SHOULD be. Your conscience and morale were effected by your previous abortion. You wonder if this baby's due date being your birthday is a sign from the God who made the both you. You are a mother to your children already, and know the unique person that comes from a pregnancy. These all stand at the top of the priority list, I think. If you don't want to have an abortion, and agree that this new life was given by God and is not yours to take - you don't have to have an abortion! That is the right side of pro-choice.

Circumstances that are understandably fearful and overwhelming will come and go - and even a year from now the landscape of these will be different. But abortion is permanent.

So if you choose life - that leaves talking about support and help options! Just about every city has a local Pregnancy Resource Center, and these are a huge blessing to women in unplanned pregnancies. All services are free, and you can get all kinds of assistance with material needs as well as free ultrasounds, emotional counseling (by wonderful women who are very familiar with the sea of emotions that women in unplanned pregnancies face) and just about any other resource you can think of.

Maybe some of the other women who are here and have been where you're at will have some other suggestions. This board is also a great resource to come to and be unconditionally respected.

Hold on; this season won't last forever. The most agonizing part is trying to come to peace and resolve about embracing the new little person in you. Once that is done, even the challenges of the pregnancy seem more endurable because there is hope and life instead of darkness and death.

Let us know how we can help!

I will be praying for you, friend.

With Kindness,

Heather