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[> Subject: Re: What to do, what to do....
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Rachel
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Date Posted: 03/ 3/06 7:14am
First off, CONGRATULATIONS on the new little life inside of you! This baby has chosen you to be it's mommy - it may know better than you that you are ready and can handle it. If you look around on this board, you will see many women, including me, that have thought EXACTLY the same way as you. When it happens, it's just really scary and seems impossible. And I, like you, had broken up with my significant other before I became pregnant, and I, like you, am not going to be with the dad of the baby just because I am pregnant.
but alot of the fears you have are solve-able. you DO have a support system, which is great. Alot of women don't. You are 25, educated, and on your way to a terrific career. Alot of women haven't even started college when they become pregnant, and do all of their education with a little one at home. You can go to school from now until the baby is born, no problem! And after you have him/her, they sleep alot and I am sure that you can still concentrate at least part time on your studies. At a year old someone can always come and take your kiddo to the park or pop in a movie for them while you write a paper. i should know, because I have a 2.5 yr old and I still manage to get a lot done. (I work from home.)
Your body is in the prime stage for carrying life - it may or may not be as you get older. You never know if you will be able to get pregnant again - when we play God with decisions like abortion it doesn't always work out the greatest....there are many physical and emotional problems associated with it that could affect your studies, too. And also affect future fertility.
It sounds like you will be an AWESOME mom, I think you should "let go and let god", and celebrate what your body is doing - the most wonderful thing that can be experienced as a woman. I know it is easier said than done, and for me it wasn't until just recently that i felt happy about my 2nd pregnancy, and I went through all of this drama with my first pregnancy, too! I just really feel that things work out for a reason, and just because youa re single does not mean it will not work out. You are young and you just never know what will happen. I know women who find the love of their lives while they are pregnant, or after they have a child, or maybe they are just happy to be a mom and they don't need a man.
As far as insurance - I would look into medicaid through your state children and families office. I had that with Eli and they paid for absolutely everything. Most pregnant women qualify as long as they make under a certain amount per month, and if you are n school it is very likely you would qualify. You can email me if you want and I can help you with it for whatever state you are in. And there is a program for babies and toddlers called "Healthy Start", where insurance is only a few dollars a month so that they can have all of their well visits and shots and sick visits as well. Also, if you have trouble with money right now, the WIC program is great - they give pregnant women and new moms free milk, eggs, cheese, etc. I just got on it myself.
The bottom line - there IS hope. and there IS help. You can email me or write here to the other ladies on the board if you feel down or confused - we will be here for you every step of the way. I want you to be excited about being a mommy, and nt waste your time being depressed and upset like I did. Because it will all work out. You have to have faith in that. And also once you see your baby nothign else will matter. That I know for a fact.
best to you - keep us posted!
rachel (tlift_07@yahoo.com)
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