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Subject: Re: What to do, what to do.... Author: Jenni [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03/ 3/06 10:58am In reply to: Rachel 's message, "Re: What to do, what to do...." on 03/ 3/06 7:14am I just wanted to thank you both very much for responding. I appreciate the time everyone takes to be supportive. I was very uncertain about what I was going to about this pregnancy, and even called Planned Parenthood on Wednesday (I found out I was pregnant on Tuesday) to find out about medical abortion...I got off the phone sobbing (without an appointment), and haven't been able to call again since. Every time I think of it I start crying all over again...but when I consider keeping the baby, although I feel stressed out and scared about the future, I don't cry...for me, that is a fairly big sign...that I couldn't live with myself if I chose to terminate the pregnancy. I have not completely made up my mind yet, but I now know which way I am leading...in a big way...I am so worried about telling the father...he's just going to be devestated I think...I am about to head to Target, and plan on picking up some prenatal vitamins while there...just in case...but I'm almost certain once I take that step there will be no turning back. I've already found that I'm watching what I eat...and it's only been 4 days...taking steps toward ensuring the health of the baby without even thinking about it definately helps me to understand what I intuitively feel is right... As for school, I know it is possible, and I will talk to the program coordinator once I make that final decision and come to terms with it. My due date should be the end of November, or beginning of December, so I would definately be able to comeplete this semester, and my summer internship. After that I will have 1 year left...I just have to decide if I want to try to go that next semester after summer (which goes from the end of August to mid-December), or just take a whole year off, to accommodate the third trimester of the pregnancy and the newborn and infant stages... Sorry I'm rambling...thanks again for your advice and support. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> Subject: Re: What to do, what to do.... Author: Rachel [Edit] Date Posted: 03/ 4/06 6:42am You can do it!!!! Don't worry about telling the father you choose life for your child. i went through the SAME thing back in October, and although he was scared of having another kid, he has come around alot. It just takes men alot longer to identify with and be open to the life that is growing. I had my ultrasound the other day, and we found out it is a little girl in there! My ex was so happy about that, and I even caught him gazing at the ultrasound photos by himself later. I NEVER thought this could happen. Butif it hadn't, I wouldn't be heartbroken either. I have my kids and I have myself and my goals and he could just go to HECK if he doesn't want to be a part of it! Just imagine which would be worse - you being devastated and depressed because you had an abortion, or him being devastated (temporarily) because you chose to do what you feel is right. Imagine your child not just as a baby, but in 3, 8, 18 years.... And from experience,I have had a medical abortion before. I feel like the baby did not go away just because the glob of tissue did. I have had many dreams (waking and asleep) about the little baby I would have had...I think thats why I could not go through that again with this pregnancy. I have considered open adoption as well, because i truly believe now that I can't argue with God, with life, when it decides to come through me I let it. But I also want what is best for my child. I am just leaving all options open...in some ways I think it is best if I mother this child...but I also recognize that there are many people who want to be parents and have so much love and so much to offer a child. At any rate, that to me is better than abortion, having gone through it. But I do feel youa re going to be a GREAT mommy. And you have the support available to you to do so. The adoption bit is just my two cents worth against the idea of abortion and bit of rambling. I am here for you, Jenni, take those vitamins and get lots of rest and come back oftento let us know how it is going. Love, Rachel & Eli & Baby Sister