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Subject: Re: What to do, what to do.... Author: Jenni [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 03/ 5/06 11:26pm In reply to: Melanie 's message, "Re: What to do, what to do...." on 03/ 5/06 3:59pm So I had a pretty crappy night... I just told the father today that I am not planning on getting an abortion...and he freaked out. He told my how I am ruining everything. I am ruining his life and his future, and how I have not thought this through...that it is going to basically be horrible for everyone involved. How neither of us has money and he's not selling any of his "toys" so he can pay for diapers...he told me I am ruining my future and giving up my career goals. Then he told me that he's going to run away, that he can't handle this, that he wants no part of a family, and has never wanted a child. I cried and he apologized and said he just lost it, but I know he was being honest. I told him I wanted him in the child's life, and I hoped that he and I could work it out, and all he could ask me was how I would feel when he fell in love with someone else and I still had to have him in my life because we had a kid together... I am so utterly depressed...I feel like everything is falling apart. On top of that, I have an ENORMOUS amount of school work right now, with over 10 papers, projects, and presentations in the next two weeks...I just can't concentrate. I almost feel like I may as well drop out now...everything seems so hopeless. My baby doesn't need me to be stressing like this... Sorry for the length...just needed to vent... Jenni [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: What to do, what to do.... Author: Donna [Edit] Date Posted: 03/ 6/06 5:50am Jenni, You go ahead and vent away. We are here for you ! I'm sorry you got this reaction from the father of your baby. I think it's typical of some men to try to make the women feel guilty about the pregnancy. He needs to remember this wasn't planned for you either. It's so easy for men to run from their responsibility. Hopefully this reaction came from the shock of the news and with some time to think it over he will realize he needs to be responsible and supportive to you. If he chooses not to be, you can still do this without him.Will it be easy? No, but will it be worth it? Heck Yeah !! You don't have to give up your career goals, it might just take a little longer getting there. If you need to take a break with your schooling, do it and keep in mind you can always continue later on. My guess is that when you lay eyes on your little one and get those hugs and hear I love you mommy..you will then know that everything that you went thru and temporarily sacrificed was so totally worth it !! If he chooses not to be a part of his child's life, it will be his loss. Hugs, Donna