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Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help Author: Leah [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 02/24/09 11:11am In reply to: Su 's message, "Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 02/24/09 7:21am It's great to hear from you even though things aren't so great for you right now. I went through hell and back just recently trying to decide whether or not to have my baby. If you look a few post down you can read my story....seriously I felt like I was losing my mind totally! I am not going to tell you taht things will be roses and just so easy for you,because they won't,but it's can you believe in yourself,do you have enough faith to put out there that things will work out? See that's the hardest question....asking yourself to trust in a future unknown. If I could promise you everything would be great.....you would have no prob right? Well that's the thing,we are given things for a reason,although we may not know what that reason is yet. If you decide to have the abortion.....your baby will still have existed. I am just really worried about you because right now you are grieving the loss of your relationship....you are heartbroken and I can tell!!!! How much more grief do you think you can stand? Please just give yourself some time...it is such a great gift. Think and breathe and spend time loving your daughter...really focus on her and yourself,think about your baby,I know you are. I have had an abortion and I suffer all the time,evn now....I wonder I cry I get mad I look at my son and cry because I just will never know,I think about the baby boy growing inside of me this very minute as I type(he actually just kicked me lol) Please keep talking...it really is the best way keep posting...these ladies will always answer back,they have for me! Get in touch with the center closest to you and go see them,you can bring your daughter too! Even if you do decide to have the abortion please don't stop posting or calling your center they will help you!!!! I am wishing such AMAZING things for you.....I think you are strong,and right now it is just hard to see past the issues which you are struggling with,you don't have to struggle alone anymore!!!!! [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help Author: Heather [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 02/24/09 3:57pm Hi Su, I am late to this post and have just read the string. I can't add a whole lot more than the great posts that have already been written express. I'd like to echo the great wisdom of calling the Pregnancy Resource Center near you, though. These are truly a one stop shop of every assistance you could ask for when pregnant - material and emotional. Everything is free, and you'd be surprised how much they can assist with. In general - please know that you're definitely not alone, and that there is great hope. So many unplanned pregnancies have turned out not only "ok" but joyous even. It is truly a bumpy ride, many things in life are. But you, in my opinion, are in the hardest part of it right now. Once a woman is at peace with keeping her baby and looking forward from there, the stress level tends to drop dramatically and many other things start falling into place. Not perfectly, but well enough for her to be released to enjoy the miracle growing in her and look forward to life. I'm sorry for the emotional turmoil you're in right now. Being a woman, and having watched many women in unplanned pregnancies on both ends of the spectrum of choice, I think a good piece of stability and wisdom is to make your decision right now based on what you know to be right, not what you feel. Reason being that truth is always truth and never changes, but our circumstances that produce the feelings of fear, despair, worry.....they all change at some time or another. Look back on your life already. You've no idea what even a year from now will look like, but abortion is permanent. Once that little one is terminated, they are gone forever and cannot be brought back, even when circumstances change later. I am very tender to the great number of women out there struggling with the aftereffects of abortion, and know that most of them were not supported as they should have been, nor leveled with when they ought to have been. So if your mind is telling you that you don't sit well with abortion, and would not like to end the life of the human being growing inside you - I would go with this and choose accordingly. Everything else can be managed, one way or another. Welcome to the forum, by the way! With Kindness, Heather P.S. - Leah, you are awesome beyond words. Thank you so much for being willing to open up. I'm very thankful things have worked out as they have for you. Peace be with you and your son!