Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 02/25/09 12:36pm
Su,
I'm crying tears of joy for you as I read your message! Congratulations, mom!
I want to give you some additional encouragement. When I got my college degree, I had four children, and three of them were preschoolers. And I got my degree anyway. In fact, one of my children was born in the middle of the semester, and I chose to stay out for a week to rest, and aced my courses. My husband usually took care of the children while I was in class. With your mother there to help you, you have the same blessing.
Your mother seems to be feeling shame at how she treated you. She told your friend instead of you. Now be sure and tell her you have forgiven her for the harsh words. Forgiveness is a decision. In your case, it's the decision to accept the hurt she caused you and not hold it against her.
Start forming plans for your future. Go to the crisis pregnancy agency, and talk to them about what you would like to do with your life, and let them help you form some plans. Learn not to let a man take advantage of you. A man should not make you vulnerable. He has the duty to protect and cherish you, and if he's not willing to do that, then you deserve someone better. See what the father does. Give him time. Don't let him take advantage of you anymore.
Come and talk to us any time, and yes, we are very much looking forward to your updates.
God bless you! He already has.
Hugs,
Pat
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