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Subject: Re: Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help

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Heather

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Date Posted: 03/27/09 10:33pm
In reply to: Su 's message, "Sad, alone, confused and hurt...please help" on 03/27/09 12:59pm

Hi Su!

I think this site is as much for support of women as it is about abortion in particular, and I'm glad you unloaded a little.

I think if the baby's father is making you so uncomfortable during the sonograms, it's not a bad solution to simply go yourself. Or a third option is that you could let him know simply what the options are; that you'd like his presence if he's okay with being there and ok respecting you while you're there, but if he still has issues or feels stressed out that you'll be ok going alone.

15 weeks! Boy that flew by; you'll be feeling him/her moving around inside you soon. Do you intend to find out the gender?

Having been through some tumultuous times myself and knowing how they can disrupt the peace in your life, I know there's not a whole lot in human words or wisdom that can make the stress go away, but please know that you have a bunch of women here who are on your side and support you. :)

And also that the same God who made you and your baby unique as you both are is able to supply the grace you need to make it from day to day.

Take good care of yourself!

Love,

Heather

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Pat
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Date Posted: 03/28/09 2:03am

Su,

So good to hear from you!

I think you already know the answer. I wouldn't have him near me if I were you, not until he starts acting decently. You can resolve not to let your children experience the abuse you suffered, but with him in the picture, I think that would be very difficult. You need to be concentrating on renewing your own heart, and at best, he will be a distraction. At worst, he could keep you from being able to do that.

There may be a natural remedy that will deal with HPV. Off the top of my head, given that it's a virus, first place I'd personally turn would be Bentonite. I'd take it internally a few times (about a tsp of liquid) and I'd figure out how to pack my cervix with a poultice of it. Most likely, powdered Bentonite blended with some kind of salve (I'd have to do some research here) might work. Anyway, that's off the top of my head, and just speculation. I'll bet, though, that you could find information online. Colloidal silver might also be helpful, but don't overdo that because it can cause the skin to develop a grayish tone. But for a couple of weeks, a normal dose should be OK. I'm not an authority; I'm just giving you my opinion, so take it for what it's worth. By Googling HPV and "natural remedies" and "herbs" you might be able to find out something. Find a natural healer who can help you. Medical science doesn't know how to help you, but natural remedies DO work. I am living testimony of that.

Your baby's father will be the real man who comes into your life and cherishes all three of you. If you hang around this baby's sperm donor, that person won't come into your life. That's why I personally think you should distance yourself from him. There are several women here who have found such a man, and you can, too.

There are also remedies that may help with stress. Keep an eye on the spotting, and I'll think about that next time you write.

Please stick around and talk to us often. We love to talk to you.

Hugs,
Pat