Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 08/ 6/09 4:34pm
Hello, Julie,
My heart goes out to you.
Don't give up on your husband or your marriage. Give him time. If he really thinks you ought to hurt yourself and your baby, then you would be better off without him. You should tell the counselor that your husband is coercing you. But please don't seek counseling at any place that offers or refers for abortion. They won't be honest with you. We know this from experience. They're in the business to sell abortions. They will make any other choice seem like the end of the world. If you choose something else, they lose a sale.
Julie, your husband is putting you into a position where you have to choose between your children. Either kill your younger one, or lose your older one. Nobody should EVER do that to a mother! It is cruel.
Take your daughter and go to a women's shelter for a few days. Don't contact him. Instead, contact a crisis pregnancy organization. They provide counseling. I may have given you this link before, but I will give it to you again. Please go to pregnancycenters.org .
You can even talk to them by email or over the phone.
Your whole future is at stake. Abortion is violence against the mother, too. Abortion will kill your younger child and could also kill you. And then who would take care of your daughter? Abortion could also disable you so severely you won't be able to take care of her. And even if you seem to get away with it, it will hurt your mothering ability. And a lot of women who get abortions commit suicide or meet a violent death in the year following anyway. Not only that, but a lot of marriages break up after abortion because the woman resents her husband for doing that to her. Or it could interfere with your attempt to get him to accept you again. Not only that, but if he will try to subject you to this violence, what else will he do to you? Stand your ground! It's not worth the risk. You are too precious.
Please, please don't do this! We will be praying for you. We love you, your baby, and your daughter, and we love your husband, too. Do the right thing. Don't do the wrong thing because your husband is being cruel to you. Don't give in! Please.
Hugs,
Pat
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