Author:
Pat
[ Edit | View ]
|
Date Posted: 01/ 2/08 9:12pm
Hi, Mandy,
Adoption is a good, though difficult, choice. So is parenting when you're not ready. However, I'll just tell you of my personal experience. We adopted two children after we had two, and we have seven altogether. We love all our children equally fiercely. Everyone in the family is extremely close. We forget who was adopted. Seriously! All our children are grown now, and we have grandchildren. One of our adopted ones has a son, born out of wedlock. Both his parents are taking wonderful care of him, and I don't see him as any different from our other grandchildren, and neither does anyone else.
Our younger daughter had miscarriages, and she was devastated by them. So they decided to adopt, and they have two. They are also wonderful kids, and all of our grandchildren are well disciplined, happy children.
Our two adopted children decided to search for their birth families. We gave them our full support. At the time we adopted, closed adoption was the norm. The older one is not at the moment interested in pursuing it, but the younger one has continued, and called me recently about filing some papers with the government to get the information on his birth family.
Our daughter's adoptions are open. Both birth mothers chose them. I don't think the birth mothers actually meet with the children, but I think she and her husband do. It has worked out well for them.
Give it some more serious thought, and just know that we will be here for you whatever you decide.
Hugs,
Pat
|