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Subject: Re: Young, Single & Alone

Author:
Lucy

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Date Posted: 12/16/08 12:21pm
In reply to: Lucy 's message, "Young, Single & Alone" on 12/15/08 1:56pm

Thankyou so much for your comments they have really helped me, My Parents have said they wouldnt support me finacially. The father doesnt want me to keep the baby but hasnt said he doesnt want to know if i do decide to keep it. Im worried i wont be able to cope on my iwn i havent got a stable job and i couldnt live at home with my parents any more. I have so many questions but not sure who to ask? xx

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Re: Young, Single & Alone

Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 12/17/08 4:28am

Hi Lucy! Ask away!!! That's what we're here for! We'll try our best to answer and help guide you. You are not alone!!! I know you are scared, unsure, and just not sure what to do. You are seeking help and that's a great first step! Please let us know what we can do for you. You can give us your ST and closest City and we can send you a list of centers in your area that can offer help and support! Lucy, I am praying for you today for peace and understanding!
God bless,
Tracey

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Re: Young, Single & Alone

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 12/19/08 2:10am

I think things will fall into place somewhat once things don't seem so "up in the air" as to what you are going to do. Fortunately, you do have time to plan before the baby arrives. A good place to start might be with seeing what resources you do have. Even if it doesn't seem like enough, make a list of what you do have and start there and build on it. Do try checking out Crisis Pregnancy Centers and local community resources as one option in finding support.

While there are certainly exceptions, it is rare for parents to be completely unsupportive once a grandchild is in the picture. I don't think this necessarily means they will let you stay, but at least they usually do come to terms with things and love their grandchildren. And if the option is that you will be on the street with their grandchild, they find it a little more difficult to follow through. Right now, they are probably just concerned that it will be tough for you and think they are doing the right thing. Do give time for everyone to adjust. It's amazing how much difference a little time can make.

In the meantime, just begin to make plans the best that you can and find whatever support you can. I know it's a little scary trying to sort through this all, but you can do it.

--Melanie