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Subject: Re: Young, Single & Alone

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Heather

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Date Posted: 12/17/08 11:00am
In reply to: Lucy 's message, "Young, Single & Alone" on 12/15/08 1:56pm

Hi Lucy,

I think you're already showing yourself to be a strong woman and an excellent mother by giving thought to the things you are and not just going with the first fear based reaction to 'get rid of "it."' Good for you for recognizing the serious implications of deciding life and death for another human being and thinking for yourself, even with the lack of support from parents and the father.

I hope you take Pat's suggestion about checking out Pregnancy Resource Centers in your area. They are incredibly helpful for not only free services including ultrasounds, clothing, etc, but also resources in assiting you financially - where to get signed up and in many cases even doing the paperwork with you.

Our country currently has a lot of support and financial assistance for women in unplanned pregnancies and care for their children while they are young.

Have your parents said they would ask you to leave their home if you keep your baby or did they leave it generically at 'they wouldn't support you?'

It is very common for parents to have a strong reaction when first finding out their daughter is pregnant with an unplanned pregnancy, but so so often they mellow and adjust, especially by the time the baby (their grandchild) arrives.

Ultimately, I think you are on the right track in asking the questions you are about how YOU would feel about an abortion because it is a permanent, life altering choice that in the end only you will be living with. So this should be your call. Those that truly love you will ultimately support you regardless of what you choose. I have a good feeling about your parents coming around to that end, even if it is inexpressibly difficult at the moment.

Hang in there; there is much hope! Sometimes the unplanned events in life are the best ones. No one would ever try to say it is easy to be a single mother, but neither is it insurmountable and it is a choice that comes with a clear conscience and beauty of life rather than a fear based choice/reaction that results in death.

Please know that there's a woman out in California that will be praying for you! I know how difficult this moment in time is and will be praying for a swift resolve so you can be at peace with yourself and with life.

With Kindness,

Heather

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