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Date Posted: 12/18/08 6:02pm
In reply to:
Rachel
's message, "confused" on 12/18/08 10:55am
Hi, Rachel,
I am so glad you came!
I can understand how you feel, and I'm sorry you are having to go through this. It is so important that you think carefully about all of this, because whatever you do will affect your life from now on. None of the choices are easy. The most difficult one by far is abortion. Abortions are dangerous, and they can do grave emotional harm.
One of the worst things that can happen is if your loved ones find out you had an abortion because you are harmed or killed, and that does happen.
To address your needs first, please know there is help available. There are crisis pregnancy agencies in abundance. You can find the one nearest you by going here:
pregnancycenters.org
If for some reason, you are not in the United States or the other countries listed, there are other sites available that can give you help in other countries.
These organizations will help you get your life together, find resources, and be very supportive. They work to meet financial and medical needs and offer counseling. They can also help you tell your loved ones.
It is normal to be scared. In fact, a woman who wants a baby is often scared at first. It's hormonal, and it comes with the territory. But eventually all those hormones settle down, and women do well. Give yourself time. And as for your family, they will probably be upset at first, and they have every right to be. But it is rare for parents NOT to be very supportive by the time the baby is born.
And by the way, I have one grandson who was born under somewhat similar circumstances. I love him just as dearly as I do any of our other grandchildren. I should also tell you that I graduated from college when I had four children, three of them preschoolers. And in fact, I had a baby in the middle of the semester, and stayed out of class for a week (my choice) and aced my courses.
One of the things you should look into is things like Pell grants. Some women have actually told me that with the help available, they were better off BEING pregnant than they had been before.
As far as being ashamed is concerned, please know that it is much more shameful to harm your baby than to protect him or her. And your baby is counting on you for your protection. Please protect your baby!
Come back and post any time. We will be here for you, whatever you do. We love you both.
Hugs,
Pat
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