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Subject: Re: Going Crazy

Author:
Pat

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Date Posted: 01/16/09 4:03pm
In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 01/16/09 1:26pm

Leah, what a WONDERFUL message! Congratulations! Babies are such a miracle!

Yes, I think sending the recording to your boyfriend is an excellent idea. Sometimes hearing the heartbeat is what turns a man toward his child. Good luck with this, and do let us know how he reacts.

I share in your joy. Especially since you struggled with it so.

Hugs,
Pat

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Re: Going Crazy

Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 01/16/09 9:33pm

That's wonderful! :)
It's so amazing what you can do these days. I would have never thought to keep a recording on a cell phone. That's pretty cool. :)

I didn't realize that you hadn't told the baby's father yet.

Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. It sometimes takes a bit for it all to sink in and he may have reactions like you did to begin with (well, not exactly like, but panicky, you know...) so just give him time no matter how he reacts. I'm hoping he will react more positively, though. At any rate, sending the heartbeat does help make the baby more real. Guys don't have the same physical connections, so anything to make your baby real to him can be helpful.

The only thing I can recommend is that you don't pick a time when he has just told you it's been his worst day ever. It's tough since he's not close. Otherwise, there probably isn't a real substitute for telling him. You probably know him better than anyone here. :)

Do let me know how it goes.

--Melanie