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Re: Going Crazy

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Melanie

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Date Posted: 01/16/09 9:33pm
In reply to: Leah 's message, "Re: Going Crazy" on 01/16/09 1:26pm

That's wonderful! :)
It's so amazing what you can do these days. I would have never thought to keep a recording on a cell phone. That's pretty cool. :)

I didn't realize that you hadn't told the baby's father yet.

Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. It sometimes takes a bit for it all to sink in and he may have reactions like you did to begin with (well, not exactly like, but panicky, you know...) so just give him time no matter how he reacts. I'm hoping he will react more positively, though. At any rate, sending the heartbeat does help make the baby more real. Guys don't have the same physical connections, so anything to make your baby real to him can be helpful.

The only thing I can recommend is that you don't pick a time when he has just told you it's been his worst day ever. It's tough since he's not close. Otherwise, there probably isn't a real substitute for telling him. You probably know him better than anyone here. :)

Do let me know how it goes.

--Melanie

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Heather
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Date Posted: 01/19/09 8:13pm

Hi Leah,

Congrats on the heartbeat! That's pretty amazing to hear. During one of my prenatal check ups, I heard the heartbeat of my daughter when she was still very young in my pregnancy and I called home so my husband could hear. He wasn't there to pick up the phone so it went to the answer machine and my nurse midwife just let it record on the answering machine for about 30 seconds.

When I got home, it was crystal clear on the machine! My daughter is now nearly 7 yrs old, but I still keep that message. I played it for her when she was 5 and she was amazed.

Did you tell your boyfriend yet?? I think the idea of letting him hear the recording is a good one. Like one of the other women pointed out, I think it's a lot harder for the father to grasp the reality of the situation when the baby isn't growing in their body. Hearing the evidence of the new human life may help him accept the arrival of this little boy or girl.

And if he isn't thrilled at first, he may be when he gets to hold his son or daughter for the first time. Certainly wouldn't be the first time it's happened! :)

Don't forget to take good care of yourself - extra rest, good food....

Did you ever get a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting?" They probably have an extra copy at the Pregnancy Resource Center. I'm really glad to hear you've felt supported there.

Love,

Heather