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Subject: Thanks to all three of you, and a small update.

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Larissa

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Date Posted: 02/12/08 4:13pm
In reply to: Larissa 's message, "Unplanned, scared, and hoping for advice" on 02/10/08 8:43am

I appreciate the responses and support. I'm still a mess - the Daddy hasn't been in touch much this week, and as hormonal as I am, I'm freaking out a bit. I don't know how I'm going to be able to do this alone, though I still wouldn't consider abortion. I asked a co-worker about the cost of adding his son to his healthcare, and it went from $60 a month to $440 a month just to add a child! What the heck?!!? I don't know how I'll be able to swing that, which is a big concern for me.

On the positive side, I have an appointment with my OB on the 20th (they wouldn't see me any sooner because it's so early), and have started taking OTC prenatal vitamins in the interim.

Thanks again for the kind words, I appreciate them.

Larissa

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[> [> Subject: Re: Thanks to all three of you, and a small update.

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 02/13/08 8:52pm

Hi, Larissa,

This is tough, I know, but try to take one day at a time. Good that you are trying to deal with it.

As far as healthcare is concerned, here's a place where I think the crisis pregnancy agency should be of help. There's no reason I can see that you should have to pay that kind of money for a child. Children are usually healthy! You might want to give careful thought to the routine medical care that would be expected of you, particularly immunizations. Do some research online. They can cause all kinds of serious and permanent problems. Obviously, you will have to decide what kind of care your want your child to receive, but I'm wondering if this has anything to do with the high cost of care. Also, there are public programs for some children, that you can look into.

Good luck to you! We'll continue to be here for you. It does sound like you are dealing with it, as difficult as it is. And you're very welcome.

Hugs,
Pat

[> [> Subject: Re: Thanks to all three of you, and a small update.

Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 02/14/08 7:41am

Larissa,

You should look into your state's child health care medical program. I believe all states have a version of C.H.I.P.s (Children's Health Insurance Program) that's specifically designed to provide children and teens with health insurance if their families make too much to qualify for Medicaid but too little to be able to afford regular health insurance. I'd suggest calling your County Health Nurse. They'd probably know how to go about applying. Also, be SURE to apply for WIC (Women Infants and Children), a voucher program for pregnant women and their children through age 5. It provides you with vouchers for free nutritious food such as milk, cheese, eggs, peanut butter, iron-fortified cereal, beans, and juice. It's a WONDERFUL program and will really help out. Plus, the income ceiling is very high (you can make quite a bit of money and still qualify for the program!) That's through your County Health Nurse, also. Plus, it will provide you with healthy food for a year after your little one is born if you choose to nurse or will provide your baby with formula for a year if you don't choose to nurse. It will also provide your little one with nutritious food (cereal, baby food, juice, etc.) until he or she is 5! It really helped me when I was pregnant. It frees up the rest of your budget to go to other necessary things.

Hang in there ;-)

Sharon

[> [> Subject: Re: Thanks to all three of you, and a small update.

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 02/14/08 8:36am

Hi Larissa,

I agree with the other women who have posted, and also wanted to add that I think you're doing a great job responding to your unplanned pregnancy!

Regarding the health insurance jump to add a child, that sounds pretty out there. Did you ask if she has a unique plan or circumstances? Typically the mainline providers will cover a mother and child for under $200/month. $440/mo sounds like what one would pay to include and entire family.

Regardless, don't let health care costs stress you out; there are always venues in our country to make sure children get the health care they need.

I'm sorry the dad has been quiet this week; maybe he is processing?

Take good care of yourself!

Heather