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Pat
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Date Posted: 05/30/08 1:14am
In reply to:
Tony
's message, "Don't know what to do.." on 05/29/08 5:39am
Hi, Tony,
The situation sounds difficult, but not impossible. Should you find out she's pregnant, I urge you to visit this web site:
www.pregnancycenters.org
You can find a pregnancy center in your area. They will offer you help and counseling, and may well be able to work with your parents to help them accept the situation. They can also help you with the financial issues, to find solutions.
Most parents will be upset at first, and they have every right to be. After all, the two of you are pretty panicked. But most parents will eventually welcome the grandchild and dote on him or her. Give them some space.
I have one grandson (out of six grandchildren) who was born out of wedlock. He's just as precious as the others. I love him very deeply, and his parents are taking good care of him, even though they are not married (I hope they will get married someday).
Lots of times the first reaction is to get a secret abortion. I advise against it. Abortion is very dangerous and could cause serious damage to your girlfriend's body, not to mention the fact it really doesn't solve anything. It could also do a lot of damage to her emotions. It is quite likely to cause your relationship to break up. If she suffers a complication from an abortion, your parents will find out anyway.
You're both adults, although it would be time for you to look for a place of your own, most likely. The pregnancy center can help with that, too. Do you see the possibility of a future with her? If so, give that some serious thought and discussion.
I hope this helps.
Take care, and keep her safe.
Pat
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