Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 06/10/08 10:03pm
Hello, Leslie,
You are 30 years old. If his parents don't approve of your relationship, that shouldn't be the major influence in your decision. Don't get an abortion to please someone else. Why does it matter that his mom thinks you did it to tie him down? You know your heart.
Your boyfriend did make a choice. He chose to take a risk. Now the only way you can "undo" that is to attack your own child. No, you didn't plan to have a child, but you now have one, and this child NEEDS your protection. It isn't necessarily the case that you will have to have a "family" just because you have a child. This is something the two of you need to decide: will you stay together? As for him being scared, he is now a father, and he may grow into it, or he may not. Give him some time. Most guys don't relate to pregnancy until they can see some signs for themselves, which can include seeing changes in the mother's body, hearing a heartbeat, seeing an ultrasound, or feeling movement.
As for you not being able to afford it, there is help available. Please go here: pregnancycenters.org They can provide all sorts of help; that's what they are there for. You will probably need to think outside the box. You can find other ways to take care of you and your mom. Sometimes a circumstance like this causes better circumstances in the end.
Violence against your own child is not an answer. There are other answers. Please search for them. We love and care about you both, and will keep you in our prayers.
One other thing to consider: abortion is dangerous. What if it destroys your ability to earn a living?
Hugs,
Pat
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