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Date Posted: 07/25/08 6:48am
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Sharon
's message, "Re: Im so alone and scared!!!" on 07/24/08 2:51pm
Oops! I meant I posted it on Teresa's thread, not Lily's! Sorry for the confusion ;-)
So, here's a copy of it:
My heart goes out for all of you who are facing an unexpected pregnancy without the encouragement and support of the father!
I want to add one bit of advice: I don't know if any of you are leaning this way, but don't EVER think that having an abortion to make the father "happy" will benefit your relationship in the long run. It almost always happens that the father leaves, too. Then, you have the burden on your heart of having killed your own child AND you no longer have the father there to support you in "your decision". There are a few relationships I know of where the father stayed and the BOTH of them regret the abortion, especially when they later have more children. They both have to live with the fact that they aborted their first child...
Also, if finances are an issue, be sure to contact your county nurse to get onto the WIC (Women Infants and Children) program. It has a very high income ceiling (you can make quite a bit of money and still be eligible for it) and provides you with vouchers for all sorts of healthy food like cheese, milk, juice, iron-fortified cereal, peanut butter, beans, etc. It will even provide you with formula for a year if you decide to bottle-feed your baby - or with food for you for a year if you decide to nurse. And then it will provide your little one with food until he or she is 5! It's a fantastic program. There are programs designed to provide medical and financial assistance for pregnant women and for children. In fact, I found that (and I wasn't planning it, by any means!) I was a lot better off financially WHEN I was pregnant and with a little baby than I had been BEFORE I was pregnant ;-)
The father of my son wanted me to have an abortion. I actually even had an appointment for an abortion. I ended up cancelling it, though, and words can't describe how grateful I am that I did. That was 29 years ago. Now, my son and his girlfriend are expecting a baby in October!!! It's chilling to think that my son's life and his child's life were in my hands as I made "my" choice.
I don't think that things happen by accident: I think it was meant to be that every one of you found this board and posted here...
I'll be saying a prayer for you and for your little ones - and for your partners, that they would come to see the incredible gift that they are being given.
Sharon
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