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Subject: Re: Terrified and depressed


Author:
Lori
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Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 10:32am
In reply to: Jess 's message, "Terrified and depressed" on 07/ 1/07 7:55pm

Hi Jess,

Welcome to the board, and just like Pat told you, you are not alone we are all here for you.

I'm sorry to hear that your fiance has abandoned you in this way. It's horrible when we find out that we have been betrayed and then to know that your pregnant. The pain will stop I know that its hard to believe right now but it will slowly go away. Right now you need to think about yourself and your baby.

I know it's hard to think about the baby when the child is apart of your ex but this child is just as much a part of you and is living inside of your body. Have you seen a doctor yet? I recommend going and seeing your doctor and getting on some good prenatal vitamins that way your taking care of your body and the baby as well.

If you would like I can send you some information about crisis pregnancy centers. At a crisis pregnancy center you can talk to a counselor for free and they can help you deal with the different emotions that you may be experiencing. It really helps to know that you have someone that you can go see and talk to.

Do you have any family members that you can talk to? Or a close friend, neighbor? Feel free to email me anytime I would be more than happy to talk to you. Please contiue to keep us updated. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless,
Lori

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Author:
Jess
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Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 6:17pm

I have a friend, but I feel so embarassed. I haven't told her yet. I'm just so scared about everything. I missed my appointment with the doctor so I have to schedule another one. I'm nervous about this whole thing. I am trying to think about the baby. Wow, this is not how I planned it. I never wanted to raise a child without their father. Reality is really starting to sink in. I'm really carrying a baby -- and alone. I tried to ignore it, but I can't now. Thanks for responding. Just your words helped encourage me.
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Author:
Lori
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Date Posted: 07/ 2/07 7:25pm

Hi Jess,
I can relate to how you feel. I know that you feel lonely right now but your not alone. I know that it's hard to understand now but you will eventually get through the pain and understand that you have the personal strength through Christ to do anything.
Some times desperation is a blessing that God gives us because it will draw us into a closer relationship with Him. I know for me dealing with a unplanned pregnancy was definitely a shock and it was one of the most difficult situations that I had ever had to deal with. The only person that I knew to call on who would be there for me completely and give me the love that I needed, the support and the comfort was God.
God loves you more than you could ever imagine, don't forget that. You just have to call on God, ask Him for the strength to get you through this and I promise He will. I will be praying for you. I'm glad that you felt encouraged, that is what were here for. Please feel free to email me any time I would be more than happy to talk with you.
Before I sign off, I really think you should find a friend or a family member to talk to. Pray about this, ask God to help you and you will find someone that you can confide in that will help you through this process. Of course we are always here for you but I know that it's easier when you have someone who can go with you to appointments or be there for you when you need a shoulder. Please continue to keep us upated. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless,
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Author:
Jess
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Date Posted: 07/ 4/07 12:00pm

I haven't been to the doctor because I don't have insurance and I've seen some of these pregnancy centers around here but I am afraid of them. I took 3 home pregnancy test and they all came back positive. I guess I was trying to cancel them out. :-(
I guess I should do more research on the centers here. I'm starting to realize that I need to make the right decisions fast. I'm worried because I also have fibroid tumors and I remember being told that if I ever got pregnant it might be a difficualt pregnancy because the tumors would grow along with the baby. I have been very sick already. Is this normal? I read Shelly's story today and it gave me some encouragement. But, I'm very stressed. I contacted the father the other day and it was horrible. I'm all alone in this and trying to make it.
I guess thats what I get for not keeping my commitment to God. I grew up in the church and my relatationship with my finance-- oh,my ex drew me away, but we were engaged so I just knew things would be better soon when we got married.
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Author:
Lori
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/07 8:25am

HI Jess,

Sorry, I just read the post you made on the third but I didn't see this one.
I can't write a lot right now but I just wanted to tell you that God never lets go of us ever! All you have to do is confess your sin and God will forgive you. That is the most important step because then you can begin to forgive yourself.
God loves you Jess no matter what. Go to Him and let him know your needs, He will help you. Having my child brought me back to God in a much closer way, it was a true blessing. God will help you through this! If you want me to help find a crisis pregnancy center I will need your city and state or atleast your state so that I can get a list of centers. I will post them here for you or email them to you. Just send me an email or post.

If you go to a crisis pregnancy center they will help you with healthcare. I believe they will see if you qualify for state insurance like medicaid. I'm sure you will because you are a single mom. So, its really a good idea to go. YOu can also go to your local social services department and see what they can offer but I believe that the pregnancy center can feel out the proper paperwork to send to Social services so that you want have to go there. I know they do in my state but I'm not sure if they do where you live.

Take care,
Lori
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Author:
Jess
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/07 4:07pm

Thanks, I am in Tallahasse, Fl
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Author:
Tracey (Here's a list, Jess!!!)
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Date Posted: 07/ 5/07 6:05pm

Hey Jess! Here's a list of local centers in your area. The other ladies here may know of some others:

Pregnancy Help & Information Center
1710 South Gadsen St.
Tallahassee, FL 32301 US
Phone: 850-222-7177
Hours: MTWTH 9-4


A Women's Pregnancy Center
919 W. Pensacola St
Tallahassee, FL 32304 US
Phone: 850-297-1174
Hours: MTTh 9a-9p; WF 9a-5p; Sa 10a-2p


Open Door Women's Clinic, Inc.
410 E. Sixth Ave
Tallahassee, FL 32303 US
Phone: 850-222-7077
Hours: TTH 9:30a-7p, WF 9:30a-5p, S 9:30a-2:30p


Catholic Charities of NW FL
1380 Blountstown Hgwy
Tallahassee, FL 32316 US
Phone: (850) 222-2180
Hours: MTTHF 10-5, W 8:30-5

Please let us know how things are and if we can be of any other type of help! Post as often as you like! You and your little one are in my prayers! We are here for you, Jess!
God bless,
Tracey
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Author:
Jess
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Date Posted: 07/ 8/07 4:02pm

Thank you I am going to call these places tomorrow and get some information. I really appreciate your help. I think I probably could have looked them up myself I guess I was just so nervous. Still nervous but better. Thank you.



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