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Subject: Re: Need advice!

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Melanie

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Date Posted: 06/28/07 11:53am
In reply to: Jennifer 's message, "Need advice!" on 06/ 8/07 8:55am

Hi Jennifer,

I could have sworn I responded to you already, but maybe I made an error when I sent it?

I pretty much agree with the others. I think a lot of the decisions we make in life will disappoint someone, so the most important thing is to make the right decision, not the one who will make others happy. The happiness of others is changeable anyway. You are the one who has to live with things in the long term if you go against your heart and have an abortion. It doesn't help that emotions can be a bit heightened at the beginning of pregnancy anyway.

If you want your baby, the best thing is to be firm and resolute about it. If you waiver, you will be pressured more. Do rely on the strength of others who are more supportive and happy for you.

I definitely agree with the others about abortion and relationships. No woman should have to choose between her boyfriend and her child, and if you are being put into that position, then your boyfriend is not looking to your interests. It happens. The problem is that the usual outcome if you go ahead and have an abortion is for the relationship to end anyway. A pregnancy in a relationship definitely does test it that way. It's not usually a fun time, but you will get through this. You are not alone.

If I can be of any help, please feel free to e-mail me.

Please do let us all know how you are doing.

--Melanie

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