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Subject: Re: Questions and Venting... Author: Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/ 6/07 3:40pm In reply to: Laurel 's message, "Questions and Venting..." on 07/ 6/07 12:34pm Hi, Laurel, I have a few ideas. First of all, you are on the right track, and you should think first of being answerable to God and yourself, rather than your family. Obviously, if they would support you, this would be very helpful. But I guess they concluded that they can't trust you because of things you have done in the past, and that's really hard to live down. You have to re-establish trust, and that is never easy. If you could have some frank talks with them, and tell them how you perceive it and how it is hurting you and making it more difficult for you, maybe they would listen, maybe not. It can't hurt to try. Well, it can, because they can refuse to cut you some slack. Tell them you have turned over a new leaf, and you need their help. It should be possible to find counseling. Your best bet may be to contact someone here: www.pregnancycenters.org . They can either point you to a center in your area, or they can give you online counseling. Please feel free to come back any time and vent or ask questions. I am concerned that you feel things are getting harder. I don't want it to be that way for you. Do you have plans for how you will be able to take care of the extra responsibility of having a child? Do you need resources? Let us know what your needs are, and why you are becoming more frightened. As for letting your child down, circumstances happen. You are protecting your child. That is the most important thing you can do. The rest of it will come. Look for someone who will cherish you both. Make yourself available for that person to find you. One of the first clues, to my mind, is whether or not they seek to sleep with you. If they do, they may just be users, no matter how kind they seem on the surface. It's a man's responsibility to protect the woman he's with from his own desire to exploit her sexually. If you can weed out the losers, then the ones who are left are possible candidates for a more committed relationship. You won't be wasting your time on a dead end situation. I hope this helps. Hugs, Pat [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Questions and Venting... Author: Tracey [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/ 7/07 9:18am Laurel~ Hello and good to hear from you! I'm sorry you have to be going through all this with your family. It is probably for the best that you live in another state. I completely agree with Pat..you are protecting your child and this is the MOST important thing! I saw that you said you live in Virginia, but what part? I can give you a list of centers in your area as soon as you let me know. I think it'd be really good to be able to talk to someone. You have a lot going on right now...lots of thoughts and emotions and it's not good to keep everything bottled up. You need a chance to vent and then be able to get another opinion and come up with a way of handling and dealing with all these emotions and feelings. It's great that you are coming here as well. Sometimes though it's good to hear someone's voice or see someone in person. So, let me know what part of Virginia you live in and I'll post the centers. You and your little one continue to be in my prayers, Laurel. We are here any time you need to talk. God bless, Tracey