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Subject: Abortion Author: Amanda [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 06/21/06 11:12pm Im Amanda i was dating a guy named michael for a year. Well one day we decided that we would have sex. well my baby was concieved on May 8th 2006... I was a little bit under a month preganant. When me and My Boyfriend decided to have a baby we thought we were ready. we figured we would spend the rest of our life together. He already asked me to marry him. well when my mom found out cuz i didn't have my period she went out and baught me a test. i ended up taking 2 tests... well... of course they were positive. but it still didn't hit me i was pregnant. well anyway i called my boyfriend and told him and he completely freaked because my parents found out. anyway we went to his house and talked to his mom and we all decided abortion except me. but i seen there point i was 15 and him 16 almost 17 i had a job and he was getting one. well anyways he went with me to the clinic along with my mom and his mom. well my mom sent me and him in to talk to the doctor and realize wut we were about to go through. well instead he talked to us and he sent me in on a table and did an ultra sound i couldn't look at the screen because i knew i would cry and i knew i would change my mind so i sent my boyfriend to look. he almost broke down in tears and he grabbed my hand with tears in his eyes and said its soo small... instead of getting an internal abortion i got the pill abortion... i figured it would be easier... it wasn't because the ONLY thing on my mind was losing that baby. anyways they told me i could still be pregnant even after the pill... i was in pain for 2 weeks with bleeding and i couldn't wear tampons. i was always on the phone with my boyfriend and he helped me through it. and now the baby is gone... it hasn't even been a month and i have had No feelings twords losing the baby... till tonight... i really sat down and realized and i have cryed for hours i never realized what i did. i killed a baby that i had inside me. something that i made with someone i loved. it is now June 22nd 2006 and i can't believe i gave up that baby. When i read something on myspace it brought me to tears.. any teenager considering abortion PLEASE reconsider i don't think i will EVER get over this.. i am so hurt by what i did to my unborn child. i will live with this for the rest of my life. and just wrighting this brings me to tears. Please don't kill an unborn child it will haunt you forever... Signed: Amanda age: 15 Concieved: May 8th 2006 Died : June 3rd 2006 [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Shellie [Edit] Date Posted: 06/22/06 9:37am Dear Amanda, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this! Please consider seeking post abortive counseling through your local crisis pregnancy center (it's free). Click here to find a center. You can post here as often as you like. We will do our best to support you. I will be praying for you. Sincerely, Shellie

[> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Heather [Edit] Date Posted: 06/22/06 3:35pm Hi Amanda, I agree with the huge blessing that post abortion couseling can be, and I also want to thank you sincerely for taking the time to post your thoughts here. Many post abortive women find it hard to accept the reality of the situation as quickly and clearly as you have, and I think there's also great hope that you will be able to recover well and clearly as well. The humility alone to admitt that it was a human being and that you regret what happened brings you more than half way there. I think God has really been gracious in allowing you to understand what you do at a relatively young age. I know it isn't the least painful route, but it's the true one and the one most likely to lead to healing and freedom at the end. The same God that is powerful and amazing enough to create a human life is also gracious enough to forgive sin if you ask. Please feel free to come and post anytime, and if you're up for it, I hope you'll call your pregnancy resource center. Their free post abortion counseling is a huge support. With Kindness, Heather

[> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: luka [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 3/06 12:29am My mother forced me to have an abortion when i was about 14 years old and it messed me up too so i can totally relate. I was abused by a baby sitter as a child so my memories of my childhood from early on till my mid teens are partially blacked out so it's weird for me but i don't actually remember how i became pregnant or who by. But i did remember seeing the doctor after my mother did thinking i had a virus telling him that i felt sick most of the time. He did a pregnancy test and he said you are pregnant. I was so shocked. I had never considered pregnancy at all. I was not one of those young girls who felt any particular liking for babies (allthough i did not dislike them). I was sent to an obgyn with my mother and i was around 7/8 weeks. I was made to go to the hospital for an abortion. I called the hospital a day before and cancelled the appointment over the phone. But when my mother found out she rebooked it and made me go. I cried so much. Admittedly i had no idea what motherhood was going to be like or any of that stuff but i knew enough to know that i had a little person gowing inside of me -my own baby- and that i did not want to kill him or her. It was after that first abortion that i began to notice babies and young children and feel drawn towards them and wondered if my child would have looked like them ect. That abortion affected me for the rest of my life and contributed to the decisions i made after that -most of them bad. I don't know what would have happened if i had been allowed to keep my baby but i can tell you that what happened after it was terminated was not this bright sparkling future, i went wayyy down hill after that. It's so uninspiring how our society has become so disposable. Abortions are so commonplace now that people are begining to see it as normal. When i got my pregnancy test results from my doctor the first thing she asked me is are you keeping the baby?! My god! I said yes of course! But do you see how it has become? It's considered my some to be the 'responsible thing to do' to dispose of your unborn child if it is not convienient ect. I understand the areas of grey but what i mean is it's like alot of people forget that it is a life. And being so vulnerable and small that little life doesn't stand a chance half the time because he or she cannot speak yet. Just like a fly can be swatted people are having abortions like it's nothing. I was trying to google something pregnancy related and stumbled across a link for someone boasting about how she did not regret having her abortion and several other nasty statements about how her growing child was simply a parasite. It was horrific.

[> [> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Heather [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 3/06 7:52pm Thanks for such a great post, Luka. You've come through a lot - arriving with both pain but thankfully a positive wisdom from it, too. I wholeheartedly agree with your sentiments about abortion and how the little human in the womb is not less significant simply because they can't talk. A fetus is no less human than an infant, and infant no less human than a child, a child no less human than an adult and an adult no less human than a senior citizen (or the other way around!) Human life is a continuum (and a beautiful one at that!) and very much worth respecting in all it's stages. Who are we to judge when a person should live or die based on their size or development? It's the same logic behind any genocide - a certain people group is permissable to kill because (fill in the blank - ethnic background, political or religious persuasion, mental capacity, elderliness....and now just general unwantedness.) The common denominator is pride - they are unwanted, unequal to us, not as worthy of life as we are. And where did we get this revelation? Certainly not from the God who created all equal in worth and wonder and will hold equal all accounts of the killing of a human life. Rather from some collective, undefined social opinion that is not willing to err on the side of caution for life but prefers to cling to the certainty of the moral rightness in killing the unwanted. Thank God for the quiet anchor of truth found in the wonder of a newborn. They were no less human 1 hour before they left the womb than 1 hour after. Their place of residence doesn't didn't define their humanity. Heather

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Luka [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 4/06 4:40pm Wow Heather your post is like poetry! So well put! I don't know how certain people can get off feeling that it somehow morally correct to kill their unborn children but it's an widly held opinion that is palpable to me. And somehow i manage to end up feeling somewhat selfish and foolish(in other peoples eyes) for my decision not to have an abortion. People in stores comment on how beautiful my chidlren are and ask after my 'Husband' and when i tell them actually i am rasing my children as a single woman their faces change. I am able to shake that stuff off but it's pretty sad to me that parenthood seems to be only rejoiced for those who can supposedly afford to give their children anything they want materially. Love is not considered to be worth much to people on it's own it has to be accompanied by the green paper :(. I do struggle financially here and there. Bu we allways eat and we have a roof over our heads and we play games and go to the park and once a month maybe see a movie. Life isn't bad it's actually pretty good. But i don't own my own home and I will be working when they are all at school. I realise that i am mostly flying by the seat of my pants (lol funny expression) but i am doing the best i can with my particular circumstances and i am learning to take pride in that instead of the materialistic, pretentious standards of this consumer/media driven society.I hope one day and actually believe that the end result of all of humanity's frutiless material pursuits and vainity will eventually teach us one way or another, probably the hard way, what is truely important. I trust in a higher power that all is as it should be, cause and effect -all of that.

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Heather [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 4/06 6:59pm Hi Luka, I could say the same for many of your posts,too; thanks. I can also relate pretty easily to feeling people's disappointment at not being materially well off while having children. This is my no means exclusive to you as a single mother, as many here would probably attest. My husband and I have dipped in and out of the poverty level for our area more times than I can count, but somehow we're always at the same place you described where at least we can say that there's always been sufficient food, shelter, and clothing. And we're happy. I completely agree with you about the misplaced significance attached to money and the material, too. It's not much different in America at all, lol. I'm sure you've assured yourself before that the sincere love of one good mother is much better for a child than a two parent home where neither spouse has such room in their hearts. That's not to deny the obvious that the ideal design for both sex and children is within a committed marriage, but outside that ideal there's always redemption. And I think you sound like an excellent and patient mother who really enjoys her children for the treasure they are. You're one rich and beautiful lady. :) I hope this new little baby brings much joy to you. Heather

[> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Sharon [Edit] Date Posted: 07/12/06 8:58pm Luka and Heathe, You both have such a beautiful way with words! I want to echo what both of you are saying: true wealth is not measured in dollars or possessions. You two both seem to have grasped something that eludes many of those much more affluent: the SUVs, the three car garages, the huge homes, the fancy clothes - they don't result in happiness. In fact, they sometimes INTERFERE with happiness! It is so wonderful that playing in the park, talking and laughing with your kids, digging in the garden, reading a good book, warm baths, laughter with friends - all things that TRULY result in happiness - are FREE!!!! Very cool... There is a lot to be said for trimming down our lifestyles and living more simply. Some of us do it by necessity - others of us have the OPTION of NOT living so simply but are wise enough to do it anyway ;-) May God continue to bless both of you with what is truly important in this life ;-) Sharon