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Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Luka [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/ 4/06 4:40pm In reply to: Heather 's message, "Re: Abortion" on 07/ 3/06 7:52pm Wow Heather your post is like poetry! So well put! I don't know how certain people can get off feeling that it somehow morally correct to kill their unborn children but it's an widly held opinion that is palpable to me. And somehow i manage to end up feeling somewhat selfish and foolish(in other peoples eyes) for my decision not to have an abortion. People in stores comment on how beautiful my chidlren are and ask after my 'Husband' and when i tell them actually i am rasing my children as a single woman their faces change. I am able to shake that stuff off but it's pretty sad to me that parenthood seems to be only rejoiced for those who can supposedly afford to give their children anything they want materially. Love is not considered to be worth much to people on it's own it has to be accompanied by the green paper :(. I do struggle financially here and there. Bu we allways eat and we have a roof over our heads and we play games and go to the park and once a month maybe see a movie. Life isn't bad it's actually pretty good. But i don't own my own home and I will be working when they are all at school. I realise that i am mostly flying by the seat of my pants (lol funny expression) but i am doing the best i can with my particular circumstances and i am learning to take pride in that instead of the materialistic, pretentious standards of this consumer/media driven society.I hope one day and actually believe that the end result of all of humanity's frutiless material pursuits and vainity will eventually teach us one way or another, probably the hard way, what is truely important. I trust in a higher power that all is as it should be, cause and effect -all of that. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Abortion Author: Heather [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 4/06 6:59pm Hi Luka, I could say the same for many of your posts,too; thanks. I can also relate pretty easily to feeling people's disappointment at not being materially well off while having children. This is my no means exclusive to you as a single mother, as many here would probably attest. My husband and I have dipped in and out of the poverty level for our area more times than I can count, but somehow we're always at the same place you described where at least we can say that there's always been sufficient food, shelter, and clothing. And we're happy. I completely agree with you about the misplaced significance attached to money and the material, too. It's not much different in America at all, lol. I'm sure you've assured yourself before that the sincere love of one good mother is much better for a child than a two parent home where neither spouse has such room in their hearts. That's not to deny the obvious that the ideal design for both sex and children is within a committed marriage, but outside that ideal there's always redemption. And I think you sound like an excellent and patient mother who really enjoys her children for the treasure they are. You're one rich and beautiful lady. :) I hope this new little baby brings much joy to you. Heather