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Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/ 7/06 2:35pm In reply to: Laura 's message, "Re: unplanned pregnancy--update" on 07/ 7/06 9:32am I am the oldest of 6. We didn't have a lot, either, but we managed and I never once thought that my brother and sisters made my life difficult (other than the usual sibling rivalry.) LOL A lot of how your children deal with the pregnancy and another sibling is primarily dependent on your own attitude, believe it or not. After my second one, I didn't see that the third added greatly to my expenses, especially not when they were younger. Hand me downs help, not much different food-wise. You should check out a Crisis Pregnancy center in your area. They generally have listings for community services and offer baby furnishings, clothing (baby & maternity), etc. that might help with expenses. --Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Tracey [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 8/06 5:53am Laura~ Hey chicky! I know we've been keeping in contact via e-mail, but I just wanted to post to you today and let you know I am praying for you and this baby and this whole situation with your husband. Laura, this baby is no mistake...God already has a plan and a purpose for this child. I know you feel scared and alone right now. When I feel alone or scared or just plain unsure of the future, I remind myself that the Bible says, "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."(Jeremiah 29:11) I know you are unsure how you are going to do this financially. Have you called any of the numbers I gave you yet? If not, I hope you consider it. I can call any of the numbers for you ahead of time and make them aware of the situation if that would be easier for you. Just let me know. Laura, we promise to help in any and every way we can. You have found a safe and non-judgmental place. Feel free to post as often as you like or feel free to e-mail me. Laura, you are in my prayers today. Please continue to keep us posted! God bless, Tracey

[> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: luka [Edit] Date Posted: 07/ 8/06 5:45pm Tracey you are sweetness itself :) I agree with your sentiments that god does have a plan for all of us. I believe that my baby's existence has allready brought about alot of changes in my life that were very long overdue. Being pregnant was such a shock and not at all what i expected but i feel so calm about it all now. Not to mention excited after seeing my baby on sonogram. I just know it's right. I will be called names and accused of this or that but when this little baby arrives i will look down at my child with enourmous pride and dare anyone to say that he or she didn't deserve to live. Much harder to look a living breathing human being and admit that you wished them away.

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Tracey (Laura, how are you doing?) [Edit] Date Posted: 07/15/06 3:47am Laura~ Hey honey! Just wanted to check in and see how you are doing! Any changes on your husband's attitude? I hope you got my card the other day! :) Did you go to that pregnancy center yet? If so, how did the appt. go? Laura, I want to encourage you that you CAN do this. I know financially it's going to be tough, but things just work out...they always do! I see God work every day in my life and sometimes I don't even realize it. The Bible tells us to call on Him with our desires and he He will even carry your heavy burdens. He loves you SO much Laura! This child is no accident! Laura, we're here for you and we love and support you! I'm praying God will touch your heart today and show you His love! Have a wonderful day and please continue to keep us posted! God bless, Tracey

[> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Laura (Not Great) [Edit] Date Posted: 07/17/06 2:07pm Hey Tracey, My husband still insists on the abortion. He feels as if we just can't do it emotionally or financially. We are so stressed now with what we have that he just is soooo against it. Don't know what to do. I'm scared to go through with it. Laura

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Heather [Edit] Date Posted: 07/17/06 4:53pm Hi Laura, My heart goes out to you. Is there any way your husband will consider counseling? They even offer it free for couples at Pregnancy Resource Centers. Hang in there and go with your insticts. If you don't want to abort your baby you don't have to. I'm all for respecting husbands, but there are a few exceptions of what can be asked of a wife that are not appropriate to honor. I totally understand where he's coming from. He just isn't able to see the big picture and he's overwhelmed. I will keep both of you in prayer. With Kindness, Heather PS - If you missed it, I responded about some leads on starting your own daycare, etc.

[> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Melanie [Edit] Date Posted: 07/19/06 12:39am Hi Laura, I pretty much will just add my prayers to go along with Heather's. I am kind of wondering how pressuring you is helping your emotional state? Have you asked him how it will effect you emotionally and your relationship if you have to go ahead with something you are so against personally? If you go ahead with an abortion and fall apart, is he going to care for you and the kids for as long as it takes? Maybe there is no convincing him, but I hope some good questions asked with due respect might cause at least a little thinking. At any rate, hang in there.. my prayers are with you. --Melanie

[> [> [> [> Subject: Re: unplanned pregnancy--update Author: Sharon [Edit] Date Posted: 07/17/06 5:11pm Laura, I suggest you invite your husband to post here. We could help encourage him maybe help him to see that bringing this little person into the world most certainly is possible. There is a lot of support available out there if you know where to look for it. And, things always seem bleakest just before the dawn. Hang in there. Be strong for yourself and for your little one. Your husband will be grateful to you someday that you stood strong and didn't let him talk you into aborting his child... God bless you. Sharon