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Subject: Re: Crisis pregnancy Domestic Violence Author: luka [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/24/06 3:46pm In reply to: luka 's message, "Re: Crisis pregnancy Domestic Violence" on 07/23/06 2:35am I didn't bleed a whole heap it was only spotting but it was bright to start with about a desert spoon full. Then i had a few small clots. Then it was more spotting on and off for a couple of weeks. But the spotting was light red then pink then orange /brown. Then a couple of days later i might see some more of the pink. It was such a worrying time. I can really sympathise with you on that. An ultrasound would be very helpful at this point you should be able to see a heartbeat if not now then in the next week and thats a very reasurring sign that all is and will most likely be well. I understand your wanting to try again with your boyfriend totally. If my babys father came around tomorrow and was like this a big part of me would be thrilled but i doubt i would trust it. I would be wondering why now? Why not before? Why not when i told you about the baby? Why did you lie, cheat, call me names ect? It's horrible to be pregnant and think that the man who helped you make your baby doesn't care for you. In some ways i wish he had hit me then it would be more clear cut. My babys father is still trying to pretend he did care about me to some degree and that i have it wrong somehow. -No i don't, not at all. If you can't stop yourself from going back to this man then you may have some learning stil to do i guess. I hope he changes maybe he will be one the few who do. I don't know.. But what if he hits you again? Then what? Will that be enough for you? I hope so. good luck :) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Crisis pregnancy Domestic Violence Author: Jackie [Edit] Date Posted: 07/25/06 6:20pm Thank you Luka for your reply. As for the baby...I dont know what is going on. My HCG level at the emergency room was 16 and a week later was only 30...from what I understand this is not good and I am guessing the baby died a few days after the beating. I did have my blood drawn again today and I find out the results tomorrow...so by some miricale of God...maybe the baby is still here, have not bled since Thursday...just some very light spotting. I know feel so very bad because I was contemplating abortion...and now I want this baby more than anything! About the boyfriend...please dont ever wish you were hit...my boyfriend was emotionally abusing me at first...very BADLY...and it ended up being physical. Honestly if you talked to me a year ago I will guarantee that I would never have put up with the physical abuse....but because I put up with the other abuse this is where I am at now. He is very upset I will probably lose this baby and he "says" he wants to try again. I cant do that...I was on the pill when I got pregnat...and I am going on it again until he can prove to me that he can keep his hands off. I will let you all know tomorrow if I am or not and say my good byes if I have to.

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> [> Subject: Re: Crisis pregnancy Domestic Violence Author: luka [Edit] Date Posted: 07/26/06 8:25pm Ok those levels don't sound promising but the fact that they are still rising can mean it's all ok. I know when i had my bleed that my levels didn't rise by much around the time of the bleed but then a had a big jump in numbers 3 days after the bleeding stopped.. I don't know how you're managing to stay so calm in all of this. I would be SO angry at him (your boyfriend) if i were in your shoes. He wanted the baby yes but the consequences of his actions have possibly caused you to loose your child. I mean he's all lovey dovey when he finds out you were pregnant but that didn't stop him form beating you to the point of nerve damage and causing you to loose your precious child. Does he understand what he has done here ?? I really hope your little one is ok. Take care and let us all know how you get on.