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thanx

Author:
pixey

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Date Posted: 08/26/06 12:31pm

thanx guys your messages actually helped alot and i dont feel as alone as i did before. still scared and confused though. i hate to admit the fact that he actually used me because as youve probly guessed i wanted alot more than just sex. i was going to have an abortion just to make him happy but pat has made me realise the risks, physical and emotional. thank you so much. you guys also made me realise that i should not abort my baby just to please him.. i am about 12weeks. i know my parents will support any decision i make but im just so scared of being oh i guess a dissapoinment. because i mean who wants their teenage daughter to get pregnant to someone almost twice their age. i live in new zealand and over here 16 is the legal age but we started when i was 15 and i found out on my 16th birthday. i dont think hed get ugly with me if i choose to have it, he wouldnt want me telling anyone its his but then my baby wouldnt have a father or a daddy. would that have a bad impact on the baby?

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[> Subject: Re: thanx
Author: Elizabeth [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 08/26/06 8:48pm Hi Pixey, I've been in a very similar situation to you, and being an only child, felt like a huge dissapointment to my parents. I know it's hard to get past that, but your parent's dissapointment is going to turn into respect and pride in you for being a great mum!! (which u already are for choosing life for your precious bub) Elizabeth

[> Subject: Re: thanx

Author:
luka
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Date Posted: 08/26/06 9:12pm

I am a single mum and i understand your concerns totally about your baby not having a father around. For starters your baby may end up having his/her father around regardless of how the father initially reacts (often times it does change).And while ideally your baby should have a dad around. It doesn't proclude that child from having a happy fullfilling life if he or she doesn't. If your parents support you i am sure your own father would be a great person to be a fatherly type figure for him or her. You're very lucky if you have supportive family i am so happy for you in that regard. If you had an ultrasound now at 12 weeks you'd see all the arms, legs, fingers, feet and little profile. One of my children at the 12 week scan was sucking their thumb even (how cute is that? lol). Your baby is allready fully formed in miniature. I reccomend that you have a scan any time from now and see for yourself. You could google 12 week ultrasound pictures also but there is nothing quite like seeing live footage of your very own baby swimming around inside your body. An abortion clinic would scan you before 'the procedure' but they would not let you see it for fear that you would change your mind- because you probably would. (then they wouldn't get your money)
I can vouch for abortions being damaging internally. My current pregnancy is high risk for that very reason. So i am being monitered closely for complications.

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just need to get it off my chest

Author:
pixey
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Date Posted: 08/27/06 12:59am

i feel so pathetic right now. i just saw my babys father and we were talking and all the anger and everything i felt for him went away and i started to think that maybe he actually wanted me and cared about me that is until he mentioned me having an abortion. i feel so pathetic because he treats me like rubbish yet im willing to put myself through it again just to be close to him. i just cant help it though when he shows attention towards me i feel so special and loved.... how SAD and PATHETIC is that. sorry just had to getthat off my chest