Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 08/30/06 3:29pm
Hi, Shelby,
I am overwhelmed by your courage and grace. You have overcome so much!
I would urge you to go to a crisis pregnancy agency. They can help protect you from coercion by your parents. This is very important. Your parents could figure it out any time, so it is important to have someone in your corner you can go to if you have any problems. Even though reaching 24 weeks may help with the coercion, there is no guarantee.
Adoption is a wonderful choice. We have seven children, and two of them are adopted. We forget that they are all the time, and all of our children are very close, and help each other in time of need. I am incredibly proud of all of them. At the time we adopted, open adoption was rare, and ours were both closed. Both of our sons would like to find their birth moms, and we support them. I want to tell their birth moms thank you for the incredible gift they gave us.
Be open and flexible. It sounds like you have made an excellent decision and you are at peace with it. I hope and pray that things work out for you in the best possible way, and I will never forget your courage. When you do have children that you raise yourself, you will know how to protect them. Look for a man who will cherish you, a man who will love and protect you, and who won't ask for sex until after he has made a real commitment (i.e. marriage). I hope you will come back and keep us informed of how you are doing (even for years), and if you need to rant or talk, we are always here. :)
Hugs,
Pat
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