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Date Posted: 08/31/06 8:16pm
In reply to:
luka
's message, "Re: The Great Debate" on 08/31/06 3:26pm
Hi Luka,
I agree it's disturbing. I think what really concerns me at times is the promotion of the idea by the abortion industry that 'anti-choicers' are obsessed with only the baby and don't have the best interests of the woman at heart. And here you read from an ex-abortionist what can already be surmised about how very calloused and degradingingly they regard women.
All the clinics set up for abortion alternatives that I've observed contain women helping women, quietly behind the scenes, WITHOUT BEING PAID the big bucks that the abortion industry pays out to it's employees but instead volunteer their time to support women who choose life. They're there because they genuinely care about the woman and her baby.
My husband and I are board members of a local pro-life organization in our city and the motto underneath the simple logo for our group says 'Love Them Both.' I also agree with the positive focus in the motto of the Feminists for Life website - "Women Deserve Better." Yet despite this reality that I see evidenced among dear women and men everywhere who are part of the pro-life community, I continue to hear us in the media as 'anti-choice extremists.' Go figure!
I agree also with the quote that abortion has done more to liberate men than women. By sweet-talking or flat out pressuring a woman they've had sex with to abort the evidence of it, they are able to play around much more without taking on the responsibility aspect of sex. And it's the woman who must undertake the abortion and live out her life with the effects of it. I'm not anti-men at all, lol. I just think it's far too enticing of an 'easy exit' for many that put their lust before the genuine well-being of the woman. Women struggle just as much with their own stuff.
Anyway, I'm so thrilled for you that you were able to 'just say NO' lol to this pressure from the biological father and that you are now feeling the movements and experiencing the peaceful resolve you expressed so well in the end of your post. I always enjoy reading your posts and think you're an amazing woman. I really respect you. On the one hand, I can't help but be sorry for the particular abuses and trials you've endured in your relatively young life (hey, we can still call ourselves young, can't we?) but I'm also profoundly thankful for the measure of wisdom these experiences have shaped in you so far.
I can relate about the sudden kicking, wondering what on earth babe could be up to. My first baby, our son, did this to me constantly. He is now 8 and I tell him that when he was in my womb he really had it in for my lowest left rib. He spent the entire pregnancy kicking at it and I kept telling him (in the womb) that he'd really be much better off if he would just move himself instead of trying to move my permanent bone structure, lol. He was relentless. And after kicking at that rib for awhile he'd do little sharp kicks suddenly then go totally quiet. He never gradually started moving. He would wake up and immediately jab which startled me on more than one occassion.
I'm getting sentimental now thinking about that first pregnancy and am remembering the first time I ever felt him move. Since it was my first time being pregnant I was filled with curiosity and anticipation of wondering what it would be like to feel another human being moving around INSIDE you. I kept waiting, trying to feel him in there. Then one day, I was just driving along and I felt 'the butterflies.' I tensed up and wondered if that sensation was what I thought it was. Then it came again, just swirling like butterflies in my belly and I swear it seemed like chorale music started up in my head. I had to pull over to soak in the wonder of it.
But he got over the 'butterfly' stage pretty quick and moved on to the pronounced kicking as soon as he was able, lol.
I love this boy so much now. I thank God often for the good friendship we have. I really enjoy his company and have an easygoing, mutual respect with him that gives us a great relationship.
I'm so happy for you, at the expense of sounding too trite. :)
Heather
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