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Subject: Re: help quick


Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 08/31/06 10:50pm
In reply to: pixey 's message, "help quick" on 08/31/06 7:18pm

Hi Pixey, I am glad that you hhave a doctor's appointment. I hope you are already on your way. I wish I could answer your concerns, but the doctor is the one that can do that. While miscarriage is a possibility, cramping and small amounts of bleeding are not uncommon and it isn't a given. The doctor should be able to test for HCG levels and perhaps do an ultrasound to find out for sure what is going on.

The best advice I can give is to just express all of your concerns and ask any questions that come to mind. Make sure they explain everything that is going on to you so you don't have to wonder. I know that seems obvious, but when you are going through the stress of it all, things don't get asked sometimes. Make sure you understand any instructions.

Please do come back here and let us all know how you are doing.

--Melanie

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Author:
pixey
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Date Posted: 08/31/06 11:43pm

the docter loked at me and said "youve lost your baby" as if id misplaced it or something like it was my car keys or the remote or something like that why dont they just say that it died because when you lose something you normly get it back and im not going to get my baby back. i was so ready 2 love this baby and oh it feels like my whole life has just come crashing down. i cant believe it. i just want it to be a really bad dream. i havnt told the father yet hell probly be happy. i was ready to be a mum. i dont know what to do i dont want to tell anybody. i was actually starting to feel it move around and everything. i feel so oh incomplete i guess. sorry guys diddnt mean to babble on im just trying not to cry im trying to be brave. isnt it amazing how attached you get. i just want to feel it move again. i wanted a boy i was going to name it andre and if it was a girl chloe
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Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 09/ 1/06 6:25pm

I'm very sorry, Pixy. It's O.K. to cry, in fact it's probably healthy. Were they able to tell you much of anything about what happened?

Hugs,
Melanie
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Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 09/ 2/06 7:04am

Pixey,

I think I can understand how you feel. Yes, doctors tend to talk very clinically. To some extent, they do that because they don't really know what to say. They don't know how you would like them to say it.

I am sorry your baby is gone. Most women have experienced this sooner or later. I did. It can be rough. Just know that your baby is with God, and is happy.

Please make sure that you take some kind of step to bring the abuse you have been experiencing out into the open. You deserve to be protected. Look for someone you can trust, who will not reveal anything you don't want revealed until you are ready. Perhaps that person can intervene in some way to change the situation. Your pastor (if you have one) or a crisis pregnancy agency could help.

I agree with Melanie. Let yourself cry as much as you need to.

Feel free to come back anytime to talk to us.

Love,
Pat



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