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Rachel
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Date Posted: 04/21/06 11:35am
In reply to:
amber
's message, "Re: Ups and Downs - long story" on 04/ 9/06 5:51pm
hi amber!
I am so glad you responded to my post on the board. I have responded on the board and in your email so to make sure you get this! yes - PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE - you get out as soon as you can, too! i got tears in my eyes imagining him with a gun to your precious belly...if he has a gun then for sure you need to be somewhere safer.
I also know what it is like to love the sane versions of your husband/boyfriend, but it only gets worse and without professional help nothign will get better.
My piece of advice would be to make it sound like you are moving home only temporarily so that the support of you and two newborns will not have to all rest on him - in other words - instead of making him angry, make him thankful that you would understand his pain and his dliemma and are trying to remove that pressure from him.
for example, i told Jeff that I am going up to Michigan to give the new baby up for adoption, that they will pay our living and healthcare expenses and $15,000 for living expenses I incurred while pregnant. His eyes lit up with a gleam of no baby and a huge check when it is all said and done. He's practically packing the bags for me! now, this isn't even remotely true, and I do believe more in honesty than dishonesty, but he doesn't even understand reality right now so the best i can do is make him happy until i and eli are safely out of the state.
i really hope you talk to your family about this, and maybe his parents too once you are safe back home. I am seeking counseling right away about the best way to handle the way my life has blown up in my face. But, the babies are a blessing and a responsibility so I will stay strong for them. if you EVER need to talk, night or day, please email or call me - my info is at the bottom of the email...
you are in my heart!
Rachel
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