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Subject: Re: my decision

Author:
luka

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Date Posted: 07/18/06 5:00pm
In reply to: Jacqueline 's message, "Re: my decision" on 07/18/06 1:15pm

I'm not going to give you a hard time about your decision. I have had abortions myself i am in no position to judge you. It's just that all of us women can hear very clearly that you want to keep your baby and we know that when those feelings exist they don't go away after you terminate the babys life. We don't want you to suffer and yes we don't want you to kill your child. But none of us can stop you from doing it either we can only listen and advise you should you ask us what we think. Like i have said before we have nothing personally to gain from telling you you shouldn't abort. I have been there though and i know that every pregnancy i wanted my baby and the ones i terminated still haunt me today. It's no small thing to have an abortion it truely is killing another human being, your own baby. I have tried my best to explain the feelings i had after having an abortion but words are probably futile to truely explain. But you feel it -this gut feeling right down in the pit of your stomach. Maybe you go ahead with the abortion because some part of you thinks it doesn't count as a life but you feel it -i felt it- afterwards. Its a tangible feeling of losing something- someone. I guess youre about to find out what i am talking about soon enough...

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[> [> Subject: Re: my decision

Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 07/18/06 8:34pm

Jacqueline,

Your only responsibility is to yourself and your little one right now. Those around you who are pushing you to do this aren't going to have to live with your decision like you will. Your best friend who doesn't seem affected by her abortion may very well be needing to maintain an "it didn't phase me" frame of mind in order to NOT feel whatever pain is waiting there. She may need to be defending abortion as a reasonable option because if she acknowledges that the reality that abortion is not the best choice for you, that brings into question whether or not abortion was the right choice for her. In fact, she probably really needs compassion, even though she doesn't think anything is wrong. I don't want to say it, but it could even be that she's afraid of your being (and continuing to be) pregnant: it brings her abortion into even sharper focus.

Jacqueline, I will pray that something happens either when you're at that clinic or ideally before you even get there that you will see as a sign that you aren't supposed to abort your baby. Clearly, you don't want to do this. So, that means this omst certainly is not the right choice for you. It may seem to be the "right" choice for those around you, but it's clearly not the right choice for you.

You and Dom and your baby continue to be in my prayers.

Sharon