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Subject: Re: my decision Author: Lahela [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 07/18/06 8:47pm In reply to: Jacqueline 's message, "Re: my decision" on 07/18/06 1:15pm Jacqueline, I'm coming in a little late to this discussion, but I'm concerned about you. It's important that you and your boyfriend make the decision together. But it sounds like he and others are pressuring and leading you into a decision that's in their best interests, rather than what you're wanting. Please know that while others may try to influence you to have an abortion, only you live with the consequences (heart and soul) of this decision. Just that you're trying to avoid attachment and avoid feelings in order to go through with this abortion is a troublesome sign. Women who are coerced into a a major, life changing decision, such as having an abortion are more likely to have difficulty coping with the decision afterwords. "There is also the emotional aspect, if the woman felt coerced, pressured, or like she had 'no other choice' - these are also definitely contributing factors." (1) I've learned this from providing enough peer counseling to both pregnant and post-abortive women. And, while pregnant women can't post on the following forum, you can read the stories of women who were coerced into their abortion(s): http://www.passboards.org/forumdisplay.php?f=18 It's important that you're true to yourself and you listen to your heart and your feelings. Also, I encourage you to take control of yor situation and don't let others dictate the decision for you. If you can, take some time away from those who are pressuring you and surround yourself with only those who support your right to make the decision and support you. From what you've described before, it sounds like you have the financial means and there's a lot of support out there. Please know that while I can't be there in person for you, you have my support. We care about you. I pray that you find the strength to stand up and do what you find in your heart is right for you. Love, Lahela (1)PASS Awareness Site (a neutral post-abortion site) Symptoms and Frequently Asked Questions About Post Abortion Stress Syndrome http://afterabortion.com/faq.html [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> [> Subject: Re: my decision Author: Donna [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 07/18/06 9:55pm Hi Jacqueline, I'm just so sad for you because I feel like you are feeling as tho this is the only choice to make to satisfy everyone but yourself. I feel that you know already in your heart that this is something that is going to be so very painful for you, maybe forever. If we knew this was the firm decision made solely for you and by you it wouldn't make me feel the way I do. I hurt for women that feel trapped and forced to make decisions that will haunt them. I was wondering if you have ever thought of adoption as an option for your baby. I wish so much that if you know without doubt you are going to go thru with the abortion that you would give yourself time to consider this option. Please write me if you would like to talk. I could explain the different types of adoptions out there today. My prayer is that you will see this and consider writing me so we can talk. Take time to be sure and listen to your heart. Donna