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Marnie
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Date Posted: 07/19/06 12:22am
If you know this is the wrong decision for you, then why are you doing it? Just to please your boyfriend? Which, by the way, statistics prove that your relationship will not survive an abortion that was forced upon you. Knowing how much you want this baby, you will feel resentment toward Dominic after this is all over.
You cannot wait until minutes before the procedure before you decide. You need to know ahead of time. I have heard horror stories of people who changed their mind at the last minute, but were crying so hard that they couldn't get their wishes known, and the abortion was performed anyway.
I know you're not listening to any of us now, and you don't want to hear what we have to say, because somehow, your bf's wishes are more important than your own, or your baby's. For as much as you want this baby, do you really think you can go through with the abortion and come out okay? And not resent your bf or your friend for making you give up your child? If your bf cared half as much about you as you do for him, he would be putting your wishes first, as you are apparently doing for him! You are willing to terminate your pregnancy and risk a life of guilt and resentment for him, but he can't even give the idea of parent-hood half a chance, for your sake!
Nobody here is going to hate you for your decision, but I bet many of us are praying fervently that you will change your mind - not because we want to control you or because we are so insistent that you not kill your baby, but because you have stated over and over again how much you want this baby, and we don't want you to make a bad decision out of fear or to keep a boyfriend that may possibly not even deserve you! Or one that you may not want after all is said and done and you realize that the ONLY reason you aborted your baby is because he "couldn't handle it". Sounds to me like he's being pretty selfish. Didn't he know that if you have sex, you might produce a baby? If he wasn't ready to be a parent, I guess maybe he shouldn't have had sex....or at least made darn sure that pregnancy didn't happen. You are being very responsible and looking at all options. I commend you for that. His mantra seems to be abort, or I will leave. How mature is that?
If you've read this far, I hope that my post has at least inspired you to re-think things. If not, I pray that all goes well for you and that you can get past the (possible) guilt and that you and Dominic can actually make it through this okay. I don't think he's a bad man....I think he's scared - and for most men, abortion seems like the easy way out - which it is, for them! But not for you. Abortion is not easy no matter what the circumstances, but especially not for someone who wanted the baby and was pressured into an abortion. I truly think that Dominic is a good man (from what I've read) and truly believe that he would come around, if given the chance....but if you abort, you won't ever know.
I will be praying for guidance for you, acceptance from Dominic, and strength to do whatever is the right thing for you to do (no matter what that is!).
Marnie
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