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Sharon
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Date Posted: 08/26/06 6:18pm
In reply to:
pixey
's message, "im lost really confused and alone" on 08/26/06 12:54am
I don't know if you feel you still love the baby's father, but if you are considering having an abortion in hopes of keeping him, I can almost guarantee that it won't work. Almost ALL of the relationships where the woman aborts to keep the boyfriend around, end with the woman losing not only her baby through abortion but the boyfriend as well. tragic. On the other hand, if you HAVE the baby there is a chance he might end up staying in your life and parenting his child with you. If he says he cares for you, is he willing marry you? Would your parents agree to that? Do they know you're going with him and he's that much older? I'm sure HE's aware that a 30-year-old having sex with a 16-year-old amounts to "statutory rape" and is a chargeable offense. BUT, I believe it is legal to MARRY a younger woman with the parents' consent. Do you think that's an option? Of, if you don't feel that you are ready to be a parent, then have you considered adoption? It's a lot more open than it used to be. There are many options for working with adoption agencies and, if you choose, continuing to play a role of some sort in your child's life as he or she grows.
One thing I'd STRONGLY recommend is that you educate yourself about just what exactly abortion is and does. A lot of people want to think that abortion is simply the sucking out of a little dime-size blob. But, that's not the case. By the time a woman knows she's pregnant, the embryo already has a heart that's beating and tiny brainwaves. At 10 weeks, she has tiny fingers and toes and ALL of her organs. All she needs to do is grow. So, before you consider abortion, you should visit some of the sites that show you exactly what abortion does to the fetus. (I know that the Priests for Life site http://www.priestsforlife.org and the Center for Bioethical Reform site http://www.abortionno.com both have places where you can see actual pictures. (Be warned, though, they are graphic. But it's MUCH better to see them BEFORE you have an abortion than somehoe stumble across them AFTER you've had an abortion and there's nothing you can do to undo it!) Another REALLY good site for young people is Abort73 (1973 was when abortion was made legal in the U.S.) It's URL is http://www.abort73.com.
Don't worry - we won't judge you at all. Almost all of us have been through unplanned pregnancies ourselves and we speak from experience.
Hang in there!
Sharon
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