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] Date Posted:02/17/08 7:50pm In reply to:
Elizabeth
's message, "keeping but confused" on 02/17/08 1:44am
Hi Elizabeth,
Welcome to the board. There is a way that you can narrow down your search for the possible father. You would need to know the date of your last menstrual cycle and you would need to know the partners that you had within that two to three weeks after your period. If you can do that then you could very well narrow down who the father might be.
I know that you said you live in another country so I'm not sure what they have available as far as paternity testing etc. But, in US most social services will pay for paternity testing in order for the father to pay child support. Then usually after they determine the paternity they make the mother and father pay equal portions for the testing. The testing done by the state is much cheaper than it would be if you went to a outside clinic.
It sounds like you know what you want and you have a very supportive family and that is really a blessing. So many woman feel so alone with a unplanned pregnancy and I know you said you were away from family so I'm sure that is hard but you know that they can't wait for you to come home.
I know that you said you were scared that you might not be attached to your child and I think every woman at some point has that fear. I know I feared when I was pregnant with my second child that I wouldn't love him as much as my first and you know I found out that I had plenty of room in my heart for him too. Some women are told my some people that they may resent this child or something if they have to make sacrifices etc but I find that to be so far from the truth. I'm sure you will be a loving mom, you already are concerned for your child's well being since you are on this board so I know you'll be a loving mom.
If you have any questions or just want to talk or maybe even just vent please feel free to come back to the board as often as you would like. You can also email me any time.
