I had one more thought I should have added earlier, and that's about your parents. We have six grandchildren, and one of them was born to our son and a woman he's not even serious about. Our greatest regret is that he didn't tell us about his son until his son was over 16 months old! We missed his early life! There was never any question that he is part of the family, and as far as I am concerned, so is his mother. I just hope they get married sooner rather than later. They both take excellent care of him.
Give your parents a chance. They may be disappointed at first, but it's rare for the grandparents not to dote on the grandchild. It's really hard telling them, but you know you'll have to. They may put pressure on you. Don't let them. Tell them that you have made your decision. As long as you are quiet and firm about it, eventually, they will accept it.
Date Posted:02/24/08 12:37am
Hi Allie,
Welcome to the board. I was in a situation much like yours almost ten years ago. The difference was I was much younger and I wasn't financially stable. But I'm here to tell you that everything does work out just fine. I do not regret having my child. He just turned nine years old this past January. Children are a blessing from God and I thank God all the time for giving me the opportunity to bring life into this world.
To answer your question, I totally know that your doing the right thing by choosing life for your child. Being a parent isn't always easy, just like with anything it has its ups and downs but it's always worth it. I'm amazed everyday at the little man that is growing up right before my eyes.
Please if you ever need to talk, feel free to email me. We are all here for you, come back to the board as often as you would like. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless,
Lori
