Subject:  Re: Terminated the pregnancy |
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Shellie
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Date Posted: 08/14/09 12:28pm
In reply to:
Kristen
's message, "Terminated the pregnancy" on 08/13/09 6:50pm
Hello Kristen,
I’m so sorry for you. My heart is heavy knowing that at some point you will most likely experience the grief that accompanies abortion.
I had a hard time approving your message, for a few reasons. First of all, I don’t want to take part in sending out the wrong information to another women who is considering aborting. Maybe she would see your post and feel better about aborting because a post-abortive woman says her experience was safe and without emotional pain. I don’t want women to mistakenly believe abortion is easy/safe/empowering. But the truth is: there ARE complications associated with abortion. The video with a woman moaning in pain after her abortion is a REAL woman in pain after an abortion. She was REALLY being transported from an abortion clinic to the hospital. Even if the complication rate was extremely lower than it is…lets say 1 in a million, I still think every woman considering an abortion should have the information that there is a 1 in a million chance that there could be a complication. Don’t you think they should have that information?
There is risk involved in EVERY surgical procedure. Even the common Tonsillectomy has a risk of DEATH. It’s a low risk; 1 in 15,000 die after a Tonsillectomy. But it’s still a risk! The problem with abortion is that the risks are kept quite, with only pro-lifers being willing to tell the truth, making it look like “scare tactics”. Three days before you first posted, I had undergone a D&C and Hysteroscopy to remove a mass and have it biopsied. It was VERY hard for me to go through with the surgery knowing the risks associated with it. Even though I was not terminating a pregnancy, I was still undergoing a surgical procedure that could cause uterine perforation, and other complications like uterine scaring. And since I do want another child, I worry about the risks associated with a future pregnancy after a D&C. I went ahead with the surgery, knowing the risks, because having Cancer would be even more risky! But the fact is THERE ARE RISKS WITH A D&C and every woman should know about them. There are also risks associated with a medical abortion (taken from a pro-choice site):
http://www.michigan.gov/mdch/0,1607,7-132-2940_4909_6437_19077-46287--,00.html
It is normal for some women to actually feel pure relief following their abortion. They can stop worrying about the changes their life would have undergone, and they can feel as though everything has gone back to how it was before they became pregnant. But most often reality does hit them at some point. I’ve counseled with so many post-abortive women and they’d shared their experience of initial relief that later causes guilt for feeling relieved! Perhaps you’ll be one of the few who remains indifferent regarding your decision to abort, but I want women to know that most women do experience emotional pain over their decision to end a pregnancy. They all have different points at which the pain begins. For some it’s the moment the abortion is taking place, and for others it not until later when something triggers a memory, or they realize their child would be a certain age had they not aborted. Some women begin to feel the pain during a future pregnancy, like during an ultrasound when they see their baby’s heart fluttering on the screen and realize they aborted a child at that stage. Women who abort are significantly more likely to become addicted to alcohol/drugs, and are more likely to commit suicide. It goes against a women’s instinct to kill her child. A woman just naturally wants to protect her child. When she goes against this instinct, it will most likely cause her some emotional distress at some point. This is a fact.
Another reason I didn’t want to approve your message is because I knew I’d then have to refute what you said in your message. And I did not want to cause you pain. This forum is sometimes where women who are hurting from an abortion come for comfort and support. And I don’t want you to feel like you wouldn’t receive that same support from us. It’s hard for me to dispute your post so others won’t be misled, without saying something that could upset you. If I have hurt you in any way, I’m very sorry.
Take care,
Shellie
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