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Subject: Re: Young, pregnant and considering adoption


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Pat
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Date Posted: 05/22/10 5:01am
In reply to: Courtney 's message, "Re: Young, pregnant and considering adoption" on 05/21/10 1:36pm

Courtney,

Let me throw some further thoughts your way.

Think about rape and incest for a minute. Why should the baby pay with his life for the crime of his father? Most victims of rape and incest don't want abortions anyway, and we're doing them a disservice to let society push them into it, which is what is often happening.

You have time to grow into the responsibility. That's one reason we are pregnant for nine months, so we can prepare.

I think you have pretty well explained your ex, and I tend to agree with your analysis, even though there are some men out there who simply run away from responsibility, and that's it. But I trust your judgment. But let me ask you this. Why should either your opinion or his that it's OK to harm your baby be entertained?

In the usual debate, people ask the wrong question. People are asking, who gets to decide on whether a woman has an abortion or not. That's the wrong question. The right question is, should anyone ever decide to harm an unborn baby?

There are very rare situations where the baby cannot live. But even there, it is better not to do active harm, such as deliberately killing the baby. Even in the case of tubal pregnancy, the baby can be lifted out intact and put in warm water for comfort.

I think it helps to get some cobwebs cleaned out of the rhetoric, which is why I have gone into this detail.

If you go talk to the folks at your local organization, they'll help you figure out a way to manage. If you are going to university, you can also ask if they have a college outreach program. Some colleges do. And if yours doesn't, you may be able to get one started. It's worth a try. These programs offer housing assistance and other resources to students.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you both are doing.

Hugs,
Pat

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