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Date Posted: 07:47:42 10/24/07 Wed
Author: Beamer
Subject: Re: My Marriage is Over
In reply to: Jeremy 's message, "My Marriage is Over" on 06:47:24 10/24/07 Wed

Jerremy,

Your in the company of many here who have been where you are. I will only speak for myself and say that I remember when I was in the stage of separate bedroom and that at that point I never could have seen ahead to the live I occupy now in which I'm with a hetero person and VERY happy.

It might be helpful for you to recognize that some of what your feeling is understandable. Your reality has been challenged and now you may wonder about how well your mind functions. You mind probably functions just fine and it is important for you to find some areas in your life, if possible, to do something to nourish your SELF. It can be anything but try to stop making her the soul axis of your life.

It is a process that people go though and as some here have said it is kind of like a death. Remember that even death is part of life and that we are adaptable human beings. It is natural to emotionally experience this kind of event. You feel hurt on many levels... you question your self, your own mental ability to know what's real, your own sexuality.

It can be helpful to understand that this was proabaly not done to you. She probably never meant to hurt you. She has probably been struggling in her own life since she was a much younger person and you became part of her struggle to try to be normal in a world where not being hetero is still a difficult role to fill in most places. This is what causes people who are gay to hide, decieve and create such hell and mental instability for those people they choose to try to hide behind, either conciously or unconciously.

Coming to accept this can be helpful in time to allowing you to see that this was not about you, that you are normal and fine and acceptable. You can use the pain you feel now to know that you are sensitive , feeling and alive and alive means that you can continue on to discover new parts of your future in which you have every chance of finding deep and abiding happiness, because you have known deep pain.

Take good care of your self ..you are special , unique and wonderful. Know it. Remind yourself often... honor your ability to flex. You are a stong man in your heart...and you will surive and thrive.

Love and Light,
Beamer

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  • Re: My Marriage is Over -- p, 12:22:32 10/24/07 Wed
  • Re: My Marriage is Over -- sophie, 19:47:40 10/24/07 Wed
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