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Date Posted: 16:06:00 11/08/07 Thu
Author: Bob
Subject: Re: My Marriage is Over
In reply to: Jeremy 's message, "Re: My Marriage is Over" on 06:28:51 10/26/07 Fri

Jeremy, First, I'm so sorry for you loss. Next, in fact you are suffering a loss and it will take you time to mourn, heal, and finally move on to happiness again. I know, I've been there. When I discovered my wife was gay it was horrible. All my plans and dreams involved "us" and it was difficult to let go of what was never going to happen. For now don't worry about your life next year, just deal with today and tomorrow. Get that apartment, get it furnished the way you want. Go to movies, stay involved in work, get a lawyer and work out the details of dissolving the marriage (or divorce) whatever. Tomorrow find a therapist that deals with family issues get an appointment ASAP and start therapy. You will need to learn how to focus on YOU and the therapist helped me tremendously in that regard. What hit you now, is what hit me during the summer of 2003. I'd just like you to know you will survive this. If your depression hangs around you may need to see your doctor for antidepressant meds. I had depression episodes in my past and I immediately started back on antidepressants when this all started to keep me from falling into another depression. I also needed Zanax for a couple of months to help me sleep. Doctors, therapists, a lawyer, and friends can be great assests and support people for you now. After dealing day to day for a few months, your future will start to look brighter. You can plan trips for yourself for example. When you are ready you can date again. Yes, trusting a woman again will be an issue for you. Remember not all woman are gay. As you read and respond to others on the forum you will realize a lot of woman are suffering what you are suffering for the same reason. Blame you wife for her behaviors, don't project them onto other woman. I am very happy with my life now. Looking back what I went through was a very sad and unhappy time for me, but it is over. Remember the movie "Annie" the sun will come up tomorrow! Tomorrow for you may still be months away, but keep your chin up and it will get better.

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  • Re: My Marriage is Over -- Liz, 16:18:30 11/11/07 Sun
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