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Date Posted: 20:17:20 02/24/08 Sun
Author: wicked
Subject: Re: Update (For anyone interested)
In reply to: Jeremy 's message, "Update (For anyone interested)" on 00:28:56 02/08/08 Fri

Hi Jeremy -

I am so glad to read that you have moved out of CA and are starting over. I know it is extremely difficult to be alone but my guess is that you are not truly alone.

Your ex may not be there with you, but look at that as a step in the right direction. She will never be capable of loving you the way you deserve to be loved. Heal, move forward with you life. Work, go to school take the time to do whatever the heck Jeremy wants to do. Enjoy the fact that you are single, that there weren't any kids that were affected by this gay thing. I know, I know, that is what EVERYONE told me when it happened to me "at least you found out before you had kids". At the time I wanted to choke the living shit out of them for saying that, seemed so like the "look on the bright side" bullshit where I am more cut to the chase. But looking back, I was in a similar situation as you. Yes it hurt like hell but I and you have endless possibilities before you. You can choose any path that you want. You are responsible for only you and only your happiness. Take your time to heal, grieve, get pissed off, work through all of the phases but ALWAYS take care of you. I would be willing to bet you have friends even where you don't think you have friends. Do things that interest you, books, bookstore, sports, gym, there are plenty of single people out in the world and if you choose not to be alone then you won't be. Silly me, I rather enjoy coming home to an empty house for the first time in 10 years. Not to say that I wouldn't also like a serious sigificant other in my life but I KNOW that I can survive on my own, be happy on my own and my next serious relationship will have to be right on so many levels as I will not "settle" for the crap I "settled" for with the ex.

Maybe the mean spirited from your ex is just her true colors. Maybe she now thinks you have moved on to a better place, a place where you are taking care of you and she is not the center of your world and it pisses her off? Maybe she is the one that is alone with "no one".

Keep doing your think Jeremy. You will come to find that you will meet new, interesting, amusing people throughout your walk through life. If you choose to go back to school you will meet more people with lots in common. Your friends are all over the place you just haven't met all of them yet!

Hang in there - hope you are enjoying SLC.

W

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