Friday, May 2, 2008 - New servers are in! Click-in for more info!
VoyForums

[ VoyUser Login optional ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 ]

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 00:10:53 04/12/08 Sat
Author: sophie
Subject: need some support

I could use some support tonight....

I'm living with my bi husband and we haven't made any final decisions about divorce. There was no deception in our relationship throughout our marriage until he had an 'emotional' affair with a man from work. I was told six months into it.

It's been another six months since then and I haven't been ready for a decision. He's not either. I'm not over the affair even though he stopped seeing the man. I work through it in my mind and the affair isn't even the issue. It's that he's bi.

Tonight he told me in the intimacy of a very honest conversation about sexuality, that masturbation is better than being with me. (or any other person) His reason? Because he "can finish". He's had erectile dysfunction throughout our marriage, and as we've gotten older it's worsened. Viagra doesn't seem to help. It's at the point where he experiences pretty strong performance anxiety every time we're together and isn't able to complete anything.

What he said tonight....I just felt crushed. I can't shake this feeling that I am not enough...that I am not good enough..that I am just really bad at sex...that I've had too many babies and am no longer what I used to be....that I am just not the right gender for him.

It just feels like crap and I need to vent.

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Replies:

[ VoyUser Login ] Not required to post.
Post a public reply to this message | Go post a new public message
 * Notice: Posting problems? [ Click here ]
 * HTML allowed in marked fields.
Message subject (required):

Name (required):

  Expression (Optional mood/title along with your name) Examples: (happy, sad, The Joyful, etc.) help)

  E-mail address (optional):

Type your message here:


Notice: Copies of your message may remain on this and other systems on internet. Please be respectful.

[ Contact Forum Admin ]

Forum timezone: GMT-4
VF Version: 2.94, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2008 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.