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Date Posted: 09:03:45 08/31/08 Sun
Author: Thomas (content)
Subject: Re: My apologies to all...
In reply to: p 's message, "Re: My apologies to all..." on 00:22:43 08/31/08 Sun

P, thanks for your feed back I certainly valued your input.

Please don't take me wrong in the "hating" statement, I guess I just wanted to be accepted as who I am with validation for my honesty and my own input and opinions. Part of that comes from everyday life of having to explain to others that I'm just a regular living,breathing human being. To be honest I'm not sure what most Women on the forum feel towards a Gay Man. I don't believe they are mean spirited haters but I do believe their pain can be deep rooted for obvious reasons.

My reason for my posting was to share or explain my story and shed some light on what I think every teen age boy goes thru when they struggle with sexuality growing up. Society in general has a lot to do with why people make the wrong choice. I'm not saying it is right for the decesions Men make to marry when they now who they are but the amount of pressure one feels can lead to that decesion. Most men feel if they force theirself into thinking,acting and appearing str8 that the desire or urge for another man will go away.

Through all the discrimination that I and my partner face in everyday life and the back lash we get and opportunitites that we are denied I would not have done anything differently years ago in choosing to stand up and be accounted for as a Gay Man. Sure the hurt stung bad in the begining for me choosing to do so. I lost my family because they disowned me for the first couple of years.

I feel bad that you had to go thru 30 years of not knowing anything about what was to unfold for you and your family. Always remember something, just when you think you have it bad there's going to be someone who has even worse. No ones story here is more worse than the next persons and it is nice to know that this forum can help patch people together for support and understanding.

P, I'm not sure how long it has been for you to when you found out but I do hope time will or has healed some of your pain. It may be an off target remark but in your posting it kind of felt like you might still be friends with your ex or at least wishes him well. If so thats great to be able to split the difference in half and show your strength thru it all. Take care

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