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Date Posted: 17:22:07 08/31/08 Sun
Author: Thomas
Subject: Re: My apologies to all...
In reply to: Liz 's message, "Re: My apologies to all..." on 15:41:46 08/31/08 Sun

Thanks Liz for your concern and comments.

I know stupid, meeting someone in a Gay bar (nothing happened with in the first month of meeting each other) and thinking that is where one finds their own true love. But back then and at that time (1983) there were no places to meet other Gay people. That was in the days before internet. Geez, talk bout how difficult it was to meet someone. The good thing being I did not fall into the trap of careless sex with strangers nor get involved in all the drugs that everybody was doing. Now a days people meet via internet/ Craigs list which I think is the worst site ever to meet a potential partner. It is like a bar on steriods X's 1000 - such a meat market. Now my second relationship I was in for 4 years and we met each other at a friends house on Easter Sunday. You'd think alright, neutural grounds, no alcohol involved and a nice Easter dinner what could be harmful in that. Well everything the guy turned out to be the most opposite of me but he was the opposite of my previous relationship so thats what grabbed my attention. By now people might be thinking "boy, he can't pick a good man for crap" but I beg to differ. My third and final partner who is my companion (not lover, hate that word) and life soul mate is the greatest gift I've ever received. How did we meet you might ask? We met at work, of all places - huh. I worked for this company for awhile, he applied on my day off, he was interviewed on another day off of Mine and then hired. I had to train him and believe me when I knew someone new was coming on board I was not happy. I did'nt even want to meet the guy. But at first moment I saw Him I was like "wow" I think I am going to get along with this guy and have a great co-worker (and no, nothing sexual was thought). Now don't get me wrong. I know my 1st Ex met his Wife (huh, after all these years it still feels like being stabbed when I say that) at work and they got married. But my situation was way different, you see we both became great co-workers then it rolled into best friends and was like that for a year. Once we were able to express the feelings we had for one another it was clear that we were meant for each other. We were both gay at the time so it was not breaking up a marriage. I guess I'm saying that finally I made the "right" choice in a Man who treats me very well and cares about me a great deal and I the same for him and are going on 15 years now. Even though I wanted nothing to do with another Man after failed case #2, I gave in and gave it one more shot. So I know I have not made the best choices over the years but now I'm finally where I needed to be over 20 years ago.

I know what you are saying Liz about the bad vibes from the "other" man. My guess is He is one of those "hateful, evil" type of gay man. My input is "he" probabally made it a personal challenge to steal a Ladie's Husband. It's like a game to some gay men. They feel if the Man is out there playing around with men then he is up for grabs (whether they want them for life or not) and will fight to have "him" just so they can say they won and then laugh about it. They say Women are catty, huh; evil gay Men are worse. The are vengeful and hateful of women and most (or at least all the ones I've talked to) never had sexual intimacy with a female before. They have never experienced a woman in that intimate way before therefore they see them as enemies. Go figure. I happen to love the beauty of a Woman, the fragerance of a Woman, their loyalty, compassion and strength! Woman are very important and need to be looked at as equals rather than objects.

Ok, enough of my rambles. Gosh it feels good to talk to Ladies again. I can be open, emotional and sentimental but yet still keep my masculine side in tact and not be judged for it. Thanks goes out to all you Ladies for allowing me to speak in this forum.

Woman Rock!

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