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Date Posted: 13:22:07 07/01/09 Wed
Author: p
Subject: Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??
In reply to: Maxpain 's message, "Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??" on 23:54:27 06/29/09 Mon

Welcome home.
Thank you for what you did for all of us.

I'm so sorry that you came home to something that you never imagined.

Can you access some reputable mental health support for YOU? Take it from someone who didn't believe in it, until this..it can definitely help.

You are having to juggle chainsawss right now. Returning from deployment is emotionally difficult at best. Adding this to it is almost humanly impossible.

What you know is that your wife isn't heterosexual.
Further, your wife has made the choice to cheat.
Whether she identifies herself as bi or lesbian isn't important. What IS important is that she made a choice that not all not-str8 spouses make.

As for an attorney, I would suggest that you see someone sooner rather than later in order to determine all of your options. It's always better to be proactive in this process than reactive.

A well-intentioned newly outed spouse can morph into someone you don't recognize based upon the influence of "the other person" in his/her life.

Take all of this as slowly as you possibly can for your own well-being.

Know that you've done nothing wrong.
Know that nothing you could say or do would change her orientation (and in the view of many, it never was a choice...who would choose to be gay?).
Know that you're not alone.

Please consider subscribing to one of the support lists at the top of the page. Depending on where you are, there are st8s everywhere and they are more than willing to spend some time with you. Not sure where "home" is for you.

You're not alone any more.
"We" get it.
Please continue to post.
p

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  • Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years?? -- Arya, 23:09:10 07/01/09 Wed
  • Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years?? -- jj (ditto), 15:47:15 07/02/09 Thu
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