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Date Posted: 20:23:44 07/02/09 Thu
Author: Alison
Subject: Re: Kids
In reply to: Liz 's message, "Re: Kids" on 17:38:57 06/09/09 Tue

I don't know whether these 'men' will ever face up to the harm they have done their kids. My children, aged 13 and 10, have not spoken to their dad in over a year now since they found out the real reason behind our split. My eldest has said that he 'destroyed my life and the family i loved and believed in'. Strong feelings from a 13 year old!

Seeing the hurt and anguish that this has caused my girls i will never forgive him for but saying that it doesnt stop me from feeling sorry for him on occasion that he is missing out on them, but then i remember that he made his decision, he knew what he risked losing and i guess his need to 'be himself' had to win. Sad state of affairs really but nothing i can do about it. I have told my kids that they are free to see him if they wish, mum doesnt mind as he is their dad after all but they are still not interested.

But what i cant understand is his family! His parents have not seen or spoken with my kids since just before we split and have made no attempt to visit or speak with them. I was keeping in touch with them initially but then there was a lot of accusations flying around that i was keeping the kids away from him which was untrue. If they had bothered speaking to my kids they would know that themselves, but hey ho, their loss. So although i can sort of understand my ex having to take that risk and be himself, what grounds do his parents have for their rejection of the kids when they needed their support and to know they were loved by them most? None!

Luckily I have a brilliant network of family and friends. I also have a partner who is fantastic with my kids. Am just feeling a little reflective over the whole situation now as we are emigrating in a month and no-one has made any effort with the kids. Although I'm pleased to say it doesnt seem to bother them as we never saw much of his parents anyway but I just cant understand how people can be so cold as to turn their back on their own blood!

That's my rant over, just wanted to vent how disgusted i am at these people who were once family. If they were at my doorstep gasping for water, i wouldnt offer it! They couldnt offer my kids help and support when they needed it most so as far as i am concerned they can rot in their hell!

By the way, my partners parents have already proven themselves much better and loving grandparents to my kids than my exes ever were so guess we have all gained rather than lost! x

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