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Date Posted: 21:41:12 07/03/09 Fri
Author: Maxpain (CONFUSE)
Subject: Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??
In reply to: Maxpain 's message, "Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??" on 23:54:27 06/29/09 Mon

Thanks again for all of your input. Here is an update. Well she told me she did kiss her best friend, she would like to have sexual relationship with her and she could see herself sleeping in the same bed with. Is this adultery?? The feelings are mutual between them. Now she realized how wrong she was by blaming me for everything and how badly she treated me when I got home from Iraq. I told her angry does not even come close how if feel what her and barb did and I don’t even know if there is a word that would even come remotely close how piss off I am at both to them. I told her she was a cold blooded heartless monster and she took it and she knows it.

She is now seeing a counselor to try to work on “herself”. The counselor said after 3-4 sessions she would like barb to come in with her and talk to both of them at the same time. There will be another counselor to deal with her sexuality issues if that is required. My counselor said the purpose of the second counselor is to help her with the transition to being gay. Is this right about this statement of transition/support of being gay? Should I draw a line in the sand and say barb is not welcome in the house that we live in and I don’t want barb around my boys until such time when we are working on the marriage together and going to counseling together? She is still texting, calling and going out with her. My wife said she is trying to build back a “friendship” relationship with her. Is this a bullshit line? If feels like she is using me because i still want to work on the marriage and she is taking advantage of me. Right know barb is the center of her attention. My wife had a panic attack the last week of May because barb went to see her mother in Delaware. My gut feeling what is currently going on is still not right with me but I don’t know what to do. I guess my fear is being alone and having another failed marriage.

Are there grounds for me during a divorce taking custody of my two boys because she cheated on me and I don’t want my boys to be brought up in this gay relationship? I don’t have any issues with this population but I don’t want my boys to be bought up in this environment.

My wife is a public school teacher will that be an issue that she is gay in a conservative neighborhood?

Besides going to counseling twice a week and this support site, I have no one else to talk to. I live in NJ, is there a support group I can go to??

Thanks again
Maxpain

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