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Date Posted: 05:25:01 07/12/09 Sun
Author: Tim
Subject: Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??
In reply to: difflurker 's message, "Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??" on 02:29:28 07/12/09 Sun

Thanks for the input difflurker,I kinda expected some cruel critisism.I had no hard feelings toward gays before this,just thought they had they're own issues that did'nt involve me or my family.In my mind this was something that took place before marriage and kids ever came into play at a much younger age and maybe without the long term relationship.Before I forget,I'm Not always good at catching phrases so explain to me what you meant by glossing it over.I would also like to know if you would be willing to open up and tell me a little about the parental figures in your childhood,but only if you feel comfortable in doing so.I think I have already mentioned my wife came from a very unstable background,no abuse is expected.A lot of let down by a father who was only playing the role for the sake of her having a father.He did a fair job considering the circumstances of not knowing if he was actually her father.Her mother lived like a teenager until about age thirty.My wife was with me since she was 16 years old and saved herself for marriage.Her mother supposebly told her that she had never met her real father at about age 30.I've always respected my wife and tried to be there for her because of that fact,she was let down in life not only by the person she thought was her father but the mother as well.This kind of stuff can't be good for a persons development of a stable sense of normality.I saw the infatuation,you're right,I did tell her it looked as if she had a new found love.Some people tell me it looks as if childhood caused her to adapt to some type of co-dependency relationship which desribes the lesbian relationship to a T.IT is an emotional attachment just like any affair would be,it's an addiction.I felt like she loved me for 21 years,butch came along,within a month I felt as if I was being pushed out.Butch seemed to have it all planned out from day one.She swapped her mobile service to that of my wifes so she could begin the 300 calls a month and calls to the wee hours.Anything wife or our kids needed,she just so happened to have or knew how to get fixed whatever was broken.She bought wife pair of hundred dollar hunting boots right off the bat after finding out the way to get it started was by previously working with my brother who had the same last name which isn't very common name.I know for a fact she used the fiancee to deceive me along with a lot of other co-workers.I also know that she critisized me and all men in general for whatever faults she could find.I think she painted a very pretty picture in getting control of the wife.My wife usually wouldn't take no shit off nobody but I heard this girls voice on the phone in a very load,demanding manner that really had me confused as to why is my wife taking that kind of abuse.The girl also shuts communication off at any sign of disagreement.This is emotional abuse Difflurker,I guess it is just normal lesbian shit huh.My wife told grandmother she was confused,she felt as if she was having to chhose between me or best friend.She said she has never lost a best friend but she has never had a lesbian for a friend.This lesbian seems to have issues with maybe revenge for her last girlfriend leaving for a man.Could this girl possibly be a psychopath ??My wife would watch me and the kids playing basketball with the GF on multiple occasions.I bought this girls supper on several occasions and tried to give her the benefit of the doubt even though my instinct told me there was something mysterious about the girl.I was never trusted the girl but wife kept reassuring.She did accidentally say that she did't like kids one time for some reason when asked about having kids but she caught herself and changed it to only disliking babies.I know gay life is not easy,my wife has a gay male cousin.It seems to be more acceptable for the female,they are out and proud everywhere now.Wife can be seen anywhere with GF and not be embarrased or humiliated whatsoever when around people that know this is the visual cause of the divorce.No remorse and wanting to get rid of all resonsibility period.Who has time for responsibility,I have A GF now.Now her own kids can have an even crappier childhood than she did because she is not the warm hearted mother that everyone knew her as,at least not right now anyway.From what i've read I guess she could pick up and completely abandon if the kids create a problem from her being able to carry out her affairs.Why want kids to traumatize their childhood.She said her and butch would be giving good childhood memories that she and I never had.It's kinda like everything she has said has been put in her head by butch.I'm not doubting your thoughts about my wife but a spouse should know wife better than anyone knows wife after 21 years,but she didn't use to be a big talker before butch came along,not like the communicating lesbians do which seems to be jabber at times.I know my wife said this was someone she could talk to that she had so much in common with such as,harmones,periods,cold and unloving mothers and the stable father figure not being there.It looked as if my wife was a peice of property and belonged to this girl that looked as if she could love nobody,she just needed control of somebody to have a running partner because if it weren't for wife it looked as if she had no other female friend,only hetero male friends were visible to me.When not able to be with wife she was playing golf with guys,fishing with guys,hunting with guys,etc...My wife even went as far as saying that this girl and fiancee were type of people she would like to raise our kids if something were to happen to us,where the hell did that come from.She also said it looked as if our kids were drawn to the male fiancee for what reason I don't know.I know I ramble,please excuse me but anything we learn may help us to better understand what causes a human being to change drastically into the coveting,selfish people that they become.If you know any lesbians could you turn them on to our discussions that I may be persuaded that this is an abnormal butch that we are dealing with here,she keeps it up she may not live very long.I know I got to come to understand but in the familys eyes this is one evil bitch with a very cocky attitude but an engineering degree and very intelligent and competetive in anything she does.She feels as if she got a trophy I'm sure.If it weren't for the kids I may have done something very stupid because I felt as if I had nothing else to live for and even the extended family was deceived to the fullest extent.Gone be hard getting family to accept her but maybe thats the way she planned it,who knows.Thanks Difflurker for whatever ways you can assist in helping the straight spouses vent.

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