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Date Posted: 03:32:22 07/15/09 Wed
Author: Kevin (Not alone)
Subject: Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??
In reply to: Maxpain 's message, "Re: Is My wife having an emotional affair with her best girl friend of 25 years??" on 00:15:31 07/15/09 Wed

'Who opens car doors for females? Who let females entire any entrance while holding the door?'

I Do.

The values that you speak of belong to you. Because they are not shared by others does not invalidate them. They are a heavy burden, but also a sign of strength. You can preserve these values, and teach by example, because YOU own them.

You have just participated in one complicated withdrawl process, where we quit the field, with honour. The state that was left behind is not what we expected when we went in. The battle did not go as we expected and the enemy used tactics that we were ill equipped for and at times seemed illogical. There was more hurt, on both sides than anticipated. Time will tell if the goal was achieved.

I feel that now you have the same situation in your marriage. Do not fill yourself with thoughts of how others have dishonoured you or the institute, instead salute yourself for keeping your word and yes, the faith alive.

I buried my marriage with honor. I tried to preserve it but in the end MY honor was not served by it, - and not bound up in it either. I saluted it for what it was. A gallant attempt.

You tried, and like many of us you have gone above and beyond. But some battles cannot be won, accept that and move on to one that can.

Your Sons need you.

They need a strong and noble father, one who will learn wisdom and act like a king. One who will teach them to set boundaries, to judge well but not to be judgemental. They need a hero.

Let others run. You are a man who stands to the colours. Sometimes we have to take the colours and quit the field. Battles, won or lost, are still recorded, their manouvres celebrated, the dead remembered.

Honor prevails.

You WILL come through this.

You did nothing wrong. As with all propaganda, it is believed by the enemy. Pay it no heed. You cannot fight it, so ignore it and move on. You must ignore it and not let it distract your strength. Know the truth. Carry the truth.

Your duty is to protect YOURSELF first. In doing so you will protect your sons. Get help. Look on the reading list here. I'm not surprised therapy isnt working. This is a situation for which there is no script. If you have not already joined, please please join the str8s mailing list. WE GET IT.

There is hope, there is a future, you will get through, you are not alone.

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